<p>Let me first just state that norms vary by field so I can only tell you about mine, which is actually at the intersection of 3 disciplines Oops- must add I just crossed posted with Salander, but you’ll see we are saying a lot of the same things!</p>
<p>In our field, it is not typical for prospective students to visit us before hearing about their application. It isn’t a good use of their time (or ours) unless they are at least short-listed. Depending upon school calibre, the ratio is about 3-5 students chosen per year from 100-1000 applications (though a much smaller set of those applications are truly competitive). Sometimes we get requests, if someone happens to be in the area, but it can be hard to get faculty motivated to meet with someone whose file they haven’t seen (and even then, an applicant’s attractiveness in a given year depends a lot on what the other applicants look like). </p>
<p>If there is a faculty member you really want to work with, you might want to just communicate with them via email and maybe then throw out the question at some point of whether it would be worthwhile or not for you to visit. Being on the radar of that particular faculty member, or even better, the faculty member knowing you, can definitely help (but only if you are a very competitive candidate to begin with and it helps you to stand out from similar competitive others). </p>
<p>It can often make more sense for students to attend conferences in one’s field and try to meet there with faculty they may be interested in working with. Ideally introduced through faculty they are working with in undergrad or masters, and ideally over time, not just before apps are due. </p>
<p>Most of the strong programs in my field will fly in prospective students they really like (either before making an offer, or after, depending upon the strategy). We for example, now aim to fly our shortlisted students in during the same time period so they can also meet each other. Schools with decent financial support for their PhD programs find flying prospective students in to be a very good use of funds. </p>
<p>I can not imagine parents being visible for any of this process. Parents might go along for the company or fun of it, especially if you enjoy visiting campuses or those particular cities! BUT we faculty would never know the parents are in tow. I think it could work to the student’s disadvantage as it would be considered unusual and we might question the maturity and independence of the applicant (important attributes for success in a PhD program). </p>
<p>One way to think about visiting graduate programs is to think of it less like a college to visit, and more like a potential place of employment. As a grad student, you are in a sense being hired and paid to join the program.</p>