@alwaysamom many of the HBCU’s have such rules. D’s school also has a freshmen curfew of midnight on weekdays. D is perfectly ok with these and other rules, so it’s ok with us too.
The rules definitely can vary based on the school. So your DD will just need to check on the dorm rules before making plans with her friends to come visit. Like other posters have said, some schools prohibit overnight visitors of the opposite sex and others might allow it. Other schools might prohibit any overnight guest for the first semester or during certain periods of time in the school year.
If your DD’s school dorm rules are such that overnight guests of the opposite sex are now permitted, then if the guy friend wanted to come visit, then he would either have to stay in a hotel OR arrange to crash in a boy’s room down the hall.
Before folks get all excited over the OP’s DD having 6 friends stay with her either all at once or periodically throughout the semester, just remember a couple of things:
- these are high school seniors who are making plans to visit each other when they're in college.
- those seniors really don't have any idea what college is like yet
- so even though they may WANT to spend several weekends visiting each other, in reality, that is not likely to happen
- and it's not likely to happen because each student will start to make new friends at college & get involved in campus life, school work, studying for exams, etc.
- this might not necessarily allow for multiple weekends visiting with high school friends either at their individual schools or at the friends' schools.
Y’all just need to chill out a little. 
Thank you!
I was trying to find a way to delete my entire post. I guess that’s not possible. I’m very new to this board as well as the whole college process for my daughter. She’ll be going to a very prestigious school with a very low acceptance rate. She a brilliant, gifted girl. As I said before, she and her group of close friends are in a rigorous IB program. She WILL be studying. She WILL be making new friends. I thought I was just making conversation about some things on my mind today. She won’t be “that roommate”. She won’t have six friends staying in her room. I don’t even know if she’ll have one! She certainly won’t be entertaining overnight guests for 15 weekends. I checked her school’s website and there is a form to fill out if you plan on having an overnight guest. I’m sure if one of her friends happens to be in town it won’t be an issue. Apparently I shouldn’t have asked such an idiotic question. This conversation is stressing me out! Thanks to those that knew what I was getting at. I appreciate the conversation and input.
My D’s best friend from HS visited my D and they set up an air mattress on the dorm room floor. My D’s roommate also had friends visit and they did the same. My S visited his sister over spring break (was looking at colleges) and since D’s roommate had a female friend staying on the floor, S stayed with D’s bf at his school/on his floor.
They just coordinated ahead of time. My D lived a couple of thousand miles from home, and her roommate was an international student, so these were planned/scheduled in advance.
I had a friend from HS visit me for a weekend way back when, and I had a paper due so I introduced her to a bunch of my friends since I couldn’t entertain her the entire weekend. She has been married 30 years now to a friend I introduced her to so I could work on my paper!
So one thing that a lot of colleges do, and it might be a good idea for her to gently bring up the idea with her roommate at the start of the semester even if the college doesn’t mention it, is a roommate contract, or at least a discussion of ground rules. They discuss and come to an agreement about over night guests (how many, how often, if both genders are okay, where they would sleep, if boyfriend/girlfriend romantic sleepovers are okay), maybe general sleeping and waking hours (and maybe saying not to hit reset on the alarm if the other person is asleep or studying), cleaning (maybe taking weekly turns if there is a sink in the room or something, etc).
Also… genuinely, kids tend to not be as tight once they go off to college with their HS friends. They will have a blast over winter break, and Thanksgiving for those that come home. Comparing notes, catching up. But they start to drift some after the first year. First summer, lots of them are home. But then they start to have research, internships, etc., and just don’t see each other that much. So her friends may not visit at all – neither she nor they may have time.
My daughter had a male friend from high school visit her in college when she lived in a sorority. The friend stayed on a couch in the basement. He said it was the best weekend.
@2020girl - I think it is an absolutely wonderful question, and one that I wished I would have discussed with my own kids before they moved into the dorm! Know the rules, have a roommate meeting at the beginning of the year to go over any and all potential issues, especially overnight guests (platonic or not), and if everyone is okay with guests, make sure they have an air mattress/bedding available.
@2020girl , all she needs to do is clear it with her roommate. My daughter was in a double last year, with an adjoining study and a single on the other side. When my D’s male friend visited, he slept on an air mattress in the study. If anyone had a female visitor, she could stay on the air mattress in the bedroom.
The main thing is to make sure the roommates agree. The room belongs to the people who live there, so their opinion is the only one that matters.
My daughter had a guy friend stay in her room freshman year, Totally platonic, It was fine.