<p>^I think Faline2 gave an excellent answer to your question, detailing many facets of your son’s impending decision.</p>
<p>I felt the need, financially, to make it very clear to my kids (by your son’s age) that, in the end, they were going to have to ultimately choose one of the “cheapest” schools on their lists after all financial aid decisions came in. And I clarified that "one of the cheapest” means one of the schools with the “lowest Cost of Attendance (COA).” </p>
<p>For instance, one of my sons is attending a very expensive, private university for roughly the same amount of money it would have cost to attend our local state university. In fact, he ultimately had a choice between 3 expensive, private universities in the end. All would have had a COA less than, equal to, or insignificantly, slightly more than our local state school, because of hefty merit scholarships.</p>
<p>So, I have said to my kids (because money is an issue here), “Apply wherever you like, but in the end, you’ll have to choose one of the schools that offers you one of the best COAs.” That led them to apply only to schools that offer hefty merit scholarships (Vandy is one of them), plus (if they want) one or two dream schools that don’t give merit aid (like the ivies, Stanford, MIT, etc) but that are known for their generous need-based aid. In other words, “In the end, we have to be able to afford it, and your decision will, unfortunately, have to take money into account.”</p>
<p>I heard very early in the college search process that one of the best things you can do for your kids (and family) is openly discuss money from the start. That way, the kids know there are financial limits. They know their college choice will ultimately be tied to cost. Their expectations are kept in check. </p>
<p>State schools often provide much less merit aid than private schools. If your son is the kind of student who might earn merit aid, then he would be wise to apply to schools like Vanderbilt as well as the state schools he likes. Vandy could end up being cheaper. You will not know until March or April of his senior year how costs will play out.</p>
<p>My opinion: Vanderbilt would NOT be worth an additional $200,000 over the state schools you mentioned. Why not? Well, lots of reasons. The cost of grad school. The cost to set up a home after college. The day to day stress that financial strain can bring into people’s lives. Strain that would/could last for years or decades. The fun, or study abroad, or other educational opportunities and experiences that could be purchased with that amount of money if you weren’t throwing it into a “similar enough” education at an expensive private versus a very good public. The reality of unexpected costs in the future: severe illness, forced early retirements, layoffs, unforeseen catastrophes, things that happen in families that can unexpectedly bleed resources. It’s just not worth what would amount to a second mortgage if you have a choice to do otherwise.</p>
<p>But that’s my opinion. Others definitely feel differently.</p>