My own D’s were spending 100% of their time studying and doing their extracurriculars, without time for drugs and hooking up. That doesn’t mean that if they were doing the former at risk to their sanity, emotional health, and perspective on life, I would have spoken up, big time. And one of them once enrolled in an extra AP which was briefly turning her into a machine. Therefore, I told her to drop the class. I’m the mother. I was allowed to do things like that and so are all those other parents out there who are as capable of noticing things like that as I am, and who are as responsible for noticing things like that.