<p>Kobudnik: if you ask your same friends 20 years from now, they will give you a different answer. I felt the same as your friends when I was in high school, and my siblings did too. Now we all have kids, we understand our parents more. Their insecurity made them push us harder. We are not exactly the same with our kids because we are a lot more financially secured. At the same time, our work ethic is still the same. </p>
<p>All of our family’s kids probably will go to top tier schools, and that doesn’t happen just because parents could afford it, it requires a lot of hard work on our kids part. I agree we only live once. There are many things that you can’t do over- change low high school GPA, get criminal record off or even high school suspension off. I tell my kids to live their life so there is never, “could have, should have”.</p>