So my friend and I are interested in the same college and we like the same major and minor. This college is very small and hands on so I’m scared that it’s going to ruin one of our chances.
Like would only one of us get in or when started internships one of us is going to seem better? I just don’t want us to become bitter with each over but we both love this school. And I love her so I don’t want to ruin our friendship.
Maybe, talk with her about your concerns beforehand? Could she be feeling the same way? It might be a relief for both of you to get it out in the open and strategize how you might handle these issues when/if they come up. Let her know how you feel about the friendship, even if the situation has the potential to cause strain.
As to ruining one of your chances to get in…I believe colleges will look at each of you as completely separate applicants. Try not to view the situation as competing against each other, but as the school trying to determine best “fit,” i.e., who may have the best chance to thrive and be happy at this school.
The only other advice I can think of is to try to find other schools that you can fall in love with as much as this one to add to your college list. There are so, so many, offering so many incredible experiences. Is it possible for you to visit some other campuses?
How selective is the college? Why can’t you both get in?
Is it a collaborative field? Why are you anticipating being competitive against her?
I think they mean competing for acceptance.
She worried they would go against each other for internships.
I think if this is your best friend, you need to cheer each other and be happy for each other, and use your friendship to pull each other up, not elbow out of the way. One of you will always get a little more than the other. This will probably go back and forth on who it is. Pull each other along.
If either of you are interested in this school/major/minor etc. only because the other one is, however, time to rethink.
If it’s genuine interest regardless of the other, then cheer each other on. Maybe you’ll open a business together at the end, and in that case, what makes your partner stronger makes you stronger too.
You should both apply where you want and root for each other’s success. Colleges do not have quotas by HS so if you are both qualified you could both get in.
Separately, I’d warn against falling “in love” with any one college. The kids who I see hurt in this process often have one dream school and then are devastated if they don’t get in. Seek out a group of reach, match, and safety schools that you love, that appear affordable, and that you would be happy to attend.
Apply where you want to apply without regard to your friend. Your friend may get in, may not get in, may decide not to apply, may not be able to afford it, may go somewhere else, may change majors, may fail out. Or you may do any of those things. There are so many different things that could happen.