<p>LOL @ JeepMOM I learned a new word today! Had no idea, I'm going to start using it immediately since unfortunately it has broad application right now. </p>
<p>I hear you completely - D's first assistant coach was a Duke graduate (summa cum laude), internationally recognized, had a master's, worked 20 hours a week all through undergrad while a varisty athlete and maintaining the grades to graduate with honors. </p>
<p>Back to the point of the thread, as D was narrowing her decision, this is the person who wrote reply email back that stopped just short of saying "don't come here". Not in a negative way, but rather in a very honest, forthright, clear statement "here is our program; your stats are low, and we cannot see how you would add value to our varsity given how you compare with our existing talent; if you expect to compete on a collegiate team this is probably not the place for you, from what we see in the numbers". </p>
<p>Of course, D signed right up, proved her wrong, made varsity right away. And this assistant coach was awesome, "wicked smart", respected by the team members, and a terrific role model for an 18 year old. </p>
<p>So she leaves, and is replaced by - believe it or not, two people who together don't have even half the resume, and they lack a few other things as well. The only good news is that - unlike your son's experience with the difference in philosophy, these two people have rather a total absence of any philosophy at all. But their contract is only for one year so who knows - maybe they'll be gone by next year - or - with one year left, D will continue to find a way around. Plus, the head coach will still be in charge, so hopefully it will all work out. </p>
<p>This was one of the challenges for D in selecting schools in the first place - one school in the northeast where she was accepted, also with academic money, she loved the coach - six time Olympian, world renown, very nice, kind man, etc. However, the rumor had been in play for some time that his peer at Harvard was about to retire, and he was viewed as heir for that job. AND the university in question was getting a lot of bad press for budget problems at the time, so we could not see how they could attract an equal quality replacement coach - we also sensed that there weren't really any available. So we did this thing of trying to read the tea leaves and guess - having been deferred and then rejected from Harvard in the RD round, D thought it unlikely that she would be able to transfer to follow this coach, and she wasn't really into the idea of transferring anyway - decided when the rejection arrived "there is a reason why Harvard is Harvard", and decided to stay in one place for four years, and keep them in sight for terminal degree or other education later in life. </p>
<p>As luck would have it, the Harvard coach has not retired after all, so the chain reaction we imagined has not happened. </p>
<p>But it's the same process as the "choose your boss, not your job" issue - when choosing a school, it makes sense to look carefully at the credentials and career paths of the coaching staff. </p>
<p>In conclusion, it seems as if all of the coaches D had exchanges with during her decisioning process took "underpromise - overdeliver" positions - from the Harvard coach's clear, precise, honest answers, to the school where she ultimately matriculated, and all the coaches in between.</p>