Was My Father Out of Line?

<p>I went over his house yesterday for dinner and he asked me "So what have you been doing this summer?" and I replied "Just relaxing, sitting on the couch, watching TV, and playing video games."
He gave me a weird stare and then asked "Do you invite your friends over?" and I said "No." and then he asked "Do you have any friends?" and I replied "Not really." and he asked "No friends from school?" and then I said "Nope." and finally he gave me a serious look and said "You need to have friends." and then I looked at him right back, gave him a cold stare and said "I think I've been doing well so far in life without friends." </p>

<p>Do you think he was a little bit out of line for being critical of me over something so ridiculous?</p>

<p>Absolutely. How dare he.</p>

<p>No, not really. Having no friends can indicate something about your mental health. As your father, he has a right to be worried about that. If anyone is out of line, it’s you, for being rude.</p>

<p>I could understand if he was worried about my grades or my job prospects or something important but he’s worried about… friends? My father needs to get real.</p>

<p>^I agree
Also he COULD have taken it a step further and asked why you haven’t got a job or been productive in anyway so far this summer. I am making the assumption that he is paying your way through college…which means he can say anything he damn well pleases to you about the way things are going. Suck it up and grow up…this is what happens when you mooch of parents for college.</p>

<p>I’d say irritating, but not out of line. DrewCollins kind of nailed it.</p>

<p>Actually I have a full ride at my current school. I don’t know why he’s getting so stressed out for. Usually I don’t get smart with my father but I had to yesterday because he was just being ridiculous. I even told him “Can you drop it already? I didn’t come here to get interrogated by you about that nonsense, I came here for dinner.”</p>

<p>I don’t think he was out of line, but that could be annoying. </p>

<p>If you were trying to get people outraged about how a person needs to have friends, I think you could have done it better. Good try though</p>

<p>You should confront him. Make sure you can see the fear in his eyes. Just like that CS professor.</p>

<p>^Oh definitely. Put the fear of God in your father.</p>

<p>He was probably a little pushy about it…I mean it’s your life, and if he’s not even paying anything for your school, it’s not like he has that excuse that “I’m paying this $ for school so I have a right to know all about your life…etc” so…</p>

<p>Just get use to it, your parents will nag you for the rest of their life. I am enlisted in the military and my parents still bug me about all sorts of things, thats just the way parents are. Honestly your dad went 20 times easier on you then mine would have so don’t get rude next time, all in all he is you dad and he is going to be concerned about you no matter what.</p>

<p>My mother is like that. She thinks you are diseased if you don’t have friends…</p>

<p>Lol, can we merge this thread with the “Is CC filled with nerds and socially awkward people” thread? Ahahaha :D</p>

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<p>Huh? When did I do that?</p>

<p>My mother is like that. She thinks you are diseased if you don’t have friends…</p>

<p>Dunno… it isn’t a great sign for your long term mental (and even physical) health if you really don’t have any friends. No high school friends you still hang out with sometimes? Can’t tell if you go to college in the same city where you live in the summer, but it sounds like you also don’t have any friends from classes, clubs, or the dorm that you see outside of that. If my kid did not have ANY friends, I would be worried about them. For the record, I have one kid who is an extrovert with tons of friends, and one who is more introverted and has a small group of friends (4-5). Either situation is fine, but zero friends would be a concern.</p>

<p>Yes. He’s out of line and you should curb-stomp him.</p>

<p>The fact that people here think that having friends is not important blows my mind.</p>

<p>^ I agree. Tells you something about the CC community</p>