<p>I've been having some issues recently about a REALLY weird room mate. One of my old room mates left and Housing immediately placed someone into my room without notifying any of us. </p>
<p>Apparently, this guy and his former room mate didn't get along at all (who knows) </p>
<p>So what worries me is that he's living with us now and it might create some tension or awkwardness among the rest of us because of his past and "traits" </p>
<p>For one, he likes to talk to himself a lot and think out loud. He also likes to get up really early for no reason, which annoys me since his alarm wakes me up. On top of that he's a weird sleeper as he is on the top bunk and Im on the bottom and when he tries to go to sleep he tosses and turns like he is having a seizure (which makes it hard for me to sleep)</p>
<p>I feel as though this is UNFAIR on our part since he gets to have everything his way and we're screwed and be stuck with him. Any advice?</p>
<p>The best you can do is offer to switch beds with him, and maybe suggest he put his phone on vibrate to wake him up in the morning instead of using a loud alarm… Asking for anything else would seem rude, and would be overstepping your boundaries.</p>
<p>You can’t ask him not to talk to himself… That’d be rude for you to do, and to stop talking to oneself is generally next to impossible, ahah. And he can’t help being an unsound sleeper. </p>
<p>Instead of remaining hung up on his flaws, try getting to know him, invite him out with the other roommates or friends once or twice, see how it goes, you never know… Best of luck(:</p>
<p>Not sure if the whole going out thing is gonna work, my other room mates are very hesitant to hang out with him being that he’s…well, I guess “social awkward” would be the best way to put it. </p>
<p>We’ll see what happens I guess, I just really frustrated with how housing handled this</p>
<p>Yeah, seems like they should’ve given you at least SOME notice… </p>
<p>But I’d try to get all of your roommates to hang out somewhere… If he’s “socially awkward” then getting to know him becomes more important, if you ask me… You run much less risk of insulting him that way, and things would be more amiable, in my opinion. </p>
<p>And ohh, does he have to wake up early? If he doesn’t need to, and really doesn’t take advantage of the extra time (as in he wakes up and gets ready and does nothing) then maybe point out to him kindly that he should try sleep in every once in a while, it’d be nice for him AND his roommates. He may just be used to waking up early and has no reason not to, since no one’s brought it up, so I’d just try bringing it up.</p>
<p>We’ll see how things go, it’s gonna take some convincing to my other room mates to all go and hang out with the new room mate, which I don’t blame him.</p>
<p>I guess it’s that he comes off as socially awkward with a lack of personality. But we will try what you suggest! I mean I do feel bad at times since his last room mate HATED him. But at other times as feel as though “why us?” you know. Argh I’m torn</p>
<p>UPDATE: ok now he laughs and smiles oddly in his sleep. He showers really weird (apparently he bangs on the shower walls and turns off the water a couple times)
He always leaves weird black stuff in the shower after he showers
Snores heavily </p>
<p>These are just MORE things we keep finding out as the week passes. </p>
<p>In addition, its hard to relax and be ourselves (me and the other room mates that I have known) since when he’s home i feel as though we have to change our tone. ya know?</p>
<p>@indianguy how would i go about switching room mates? Do i need a valid excuse? Since his old room mate never talked to him, I guess that constitutes a room change. So I don’t know what would be a valid excuse in our case. </p>
<p>Advice? Thanks for the responses thus far btw :)</p>
<p>JK my son had the same problem. Trust me it will get better. Some students take a while to settle in. Just be patient with him and give him time.</p>
<p>Mention the alarm and ask him to try not to move soo much.</p>
<p>We’ll see how things progress, I talked to my RA about it and she told me to wait it out until the end of the semester. We’ll see what happens then…</p>
<p>FYI, apparently he needs to wake up that early to go about his day…no idea lol</p>
<p>LOL, yeah sometimes I owner that too akashdip</p>
<p>But I actually like my other two room mates, its this new guy that’s causing a fuss, I would hate to have to leave the other two just cause of ONE bad room mate that forced himself into our room since he had a bad relationship with his last room mate</p>
<p>@gator4ever He wakes up at 8AM which is a little earlier than usually for me since I wake up at 9AM. If he had to go to class at that time, that would be fine, but the fact that he just gets up and talks to himself and does stuff around the dorm kinda weirds me out a bit and annoys me at the same time</p>
<p>@akashdip That’s what we are doing, going to the RA and telling her the situation and hopefully she can pass the word! If it’s all three of us saying the same things, I think are argument can be somewhat valid </p>
<p>I’ll keep you guys posted on what happens! My RA has told me to give him until the end of the semester to see how things go, which I can agree I guess. But the way things are, I’m not sure if all three of us would be comfortable having him around for Spring Semester</p>