<p>ok so im an incoming freshman this year at umich and i just have a few questions, first being how to handle a wedding situation. My family has been invited to a wedding on august 31st, so its the last real night of partying. Its an indian wedding which is something I've never experienced before and so i really want to go, but would it be worth skipping out on the welcome week parties (i have no idea what to expect, especially since i have like no partying experience from high school, although i hope for that to change in college). also, i mean my guess is that it will end around midnight, and its actually at pier point commons, so would i still have time to go out after if i wanted? I mean thats my main question, but also id just like some pointers on how to handle welcome week in general. Are the ticketed parties worth going to, how do i find parties in the first place, what should i expect, i don't know... Just help a girl out please :)</p>
<p>Hi,</p>
<p>I’ve read both of your messages. First off, you should relax. You seem to be overthinking everything. It’s welcome week. There are parties, you will meet people and they will invite you to them. They’re happening all day and night, you just walk up to the door.</p>
<p>No one on here can tell you if it will be worth it to you to skip a wedding. You will have had two days before the wedding to party, and get this “party experience”, whatever that is. Also, no one can tell you to rush instead of horseback ride. Sorority girls are mostly friends with the girls in their sorority, simply because they are together a lot.</p>
<p>Also, no one will bar you from joining a sorority due to a lack of party experience. No one asks how much have you partied. But, once again, you need to chill out. Sororities are looking for people who are easy going, and you seem like you’re trying to force yourself to be someone that you aren’t. Just be yourself.</p>
<p>Lastly, with all of your comments about “looking to let loose” and “get party experience”, you sound like you’re going to crash and burn during welcome week. Take this advice: take it slow. Everything is going to seem fast paced, so don’t get caught up in it. Do what you feel is right, and don’t listen to the billion idiots telling you otherwise. You can party hard and party smart at the same time.</p>
<p>Good luck, and chill out. You’ll figure everything out when you get to campus, everyone does. </p>
<p>thanks so much for your advice, i don’t feel like I’m going to crash and burn though, I’m not some crazy idiot, i’m just super tired of being the boring goody two shoes i was in high school. most of the time i actually am a pretty easy going person, i just hate change and i feel like moving out of the house and being in a completely new environment is pretty much the biggest change ever. I really don’t have anyone to talk to thats been to umich before, as I’m breaking the family spartan legacy… so i’m just trying to get advice from people that have been here, as i really have no clue what to expect</p>
<p>Keep in mind that every freshman is in the same boat. You are all moving out of the house and into a completely new environment and you’ll all do it together. This is why people make friends and bond so quickly in college. All of you are going through a ton of different emotions from excitement to fear to sadness. That’s just totally normal because this is the biggest life change you’ve ever made. That said, you’ve been working for 18 years to get to this point. Missing out on one night of events to go to a family event that’s so close isn’t going to be a big deal. It may even be comforting because you’ll be feeling a little lost and alone after just 2-3 days on campus. </p>
<p>Sororities at Michigan are very big and all of them have some members who party a lot and others who don’t party hardly at all. All of them will have women who drink too much and all of them will have women who don’t drink at all. If you decide to rush, just be yourself and let the process work. Join one where you feel like you can fit in, not one filled with women you want to be (if that makes sense). </p>