We tended to be pretty restrictive when they kids were little—limited TV, no electronics in their rooms, household responsibilities, family over friends, etc. Once they hit a certain age, though, it really depends on the kid. We said “no” a lot to our son. He pushed the envelope, and we spent a good part of his teenage years establishing boundaries. Our daughter, on the other hand, is both serious and cautious. I find myself encouraging her to take more risks, put herself out there more, have some fun…even break some rules. We don’t say “no” much to her at all, because she says it to herself enough.