<p>i cant decide which school to attend and i need help! i was initially wait-listed to wesleyan so i accepted to barnard. when i visited wesleyan i was really bummed that i didnt get in, but once i saw barnard, i wasnt as bummed. basically i had an awesome experience when i visited barnard cuz i met 6 girls who are totally cool and who i can imagine being really good friends with. i loved being in the city as well and i even like barnard more than columbia (i studied at columbia this past summer) because of the close enviornment and motherly atmosphere. also, i know that i am going to be very sad in the beginging and i will need a lot of support, esp because i live on the other coast and i only have family there, and barnard seems like it would be a great place to go. the only problem is the whole guy thing. yes, i can take classes at columbia and i do live in nyc, but how big of an effort will i have to make? also, i wont have guys in all of my classes and i wont see them as regurarly. also, i dont like all of the freaking requirements like a lab science??!!! and this is minor but i dont like that all the dorms are doubles. also, id miss out on the quintesential college experience what with having no campus, etc. but, so many amazing famous women have gone to barnard and succeded and i wonder if going to barnard would help me more with my future profession, also because the UN is right near there and interning there correlates with my professional aspirations.
on the otherhand there is wesleyan. first of all, the admissions guy who i met when i visited called me on Saturday morning to offer me a position there! he called me on the weekend! how cool? and then he sent me a really cool e-mail. wes is also co-ed and it has great departments, no requirements almost, and single dorms. the only problems are: i really loved the idea of going to school in nyc and having that awesome city right at my doorstep. will i get bored with middletown? also, im more uncomfortable with going to wesleyan buti think this is for a variety of reasons: 1) i wont automatically have friends there like iwould at barnard. i must admit that one of the things i am most scared about is making friends, which is totally lame, i know, especially because i am quite the social butterfly, 2) it is a slightly largerschool with less of a motherly air to it so ill be missing out on that, 3) and im just morescared. i have many more doubts and fears about going to wesleyan but part of me is also excited and thrilled too. i want to go there, i do. i dont neccesarily like the idea of declining the admssions offer. but barnard also lures me, like a safe haven. from what you (the reader) know about any of these schools, which one do you recomend i go to????? please write back soon! i need to send in the letter!</p>
<p>Barnard's a wonderful school. My sister went there and had no regrets. The only problem --and it's a small one -- is that the minute you step off the Barnard campus you will be competing with Columbia College women for all the rights and privileges of being female and an undergraduate at Columbia University. It's only slightly worse than being confused with Wellesley. :)</p>
<p>I would choose Barnard due to the location and being part of Columbia.</p>
<p>yeah, i kinda agree with you guys but then i would be missing out on the integral college campus/life/experience thing wouldnt i? ah! maybe im just scared about wesleyan because i know less about it? but regarding barnard competing with columbia women, johnwesley, what do you mean? do you mean in terms of guys? sorry but i dont really understand the whole "rights and priviledges of being female" because then wouldnt we be competing with all of the women in NY? :)</p>
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<p>but regarding barnard competing with columbia women, johnwesley, what do you mean? do you mean in terms of guys? <</p>
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<p>I think just in terms of prestige. You may find yourself having to constantly "explain" that you really go to Barnard whenever you mention that you are going to a Columbia club or other function. Columbia women, especially, will be somewhat snotty and cliquish about it.</p>
<p>I don't mean to sway you either way, but you would certainly have a blast at Wesleyan.</p>
<p>I would go to Wesleyan.</p>
<p>john wesley,</p>
<p>thank you for all of your advice, and everyone else too. but i have a question for you: your user name is both the name of the founder of wesleyan university, as well as the name of one of the current california governor candidates. do you have any connection with either? just curious</p>
<p>Oh, I'm definitely a Wesleyan troll. :) No relation to the guy in California.</p>
<p>Like another poster said, not to sway you either way, but Barnard does have a small campus, and of course, there's Columbia's slightly larger campus (but still small) unless you were talking about not having a traditional campus experience because of the draw of NYC over a rural college campus--that does exist. My friends and I usually go off campus to "do something," but at the same time, we just as often hang out at the dorm. On the other hand, don't let making friends be a deciding factor. I was debating about my school or the local state U because that's where all of my friends went. Sure, the first week or two may be rougher if you go to Wesleyan over Barnard, but you'll make friends at either. Don't let that fear limit you if you'd rather go to Wesleyan.</p>
<p>What did you end up doing? I’m in almost the exact same boat as you.</p>
<p>@ jerriblank: the first few weeks, and even the first year (all 4 years, really), everyone at Wesleyan is super friendly - all frosh are in the same position (no friends yet) and so it’s extremely easy to make friends. you can just sit down on Foss Hill in the middle of campus and say hello to strangers. I wouldn’t worry about that at all</p>
<p>I think the concern about getting bored with the town (whichever one it is) is over-blown. There are so many things to do on these campuses. Unless you are someone who must go to great theater, concerts and museums a lot (for which New York is the best, of course), you won’t need much other than your campus. Even though Barnard is connected to Columbia, it is still a girls school and it seems like the types of students may be quite different. Definitely go to accepted student days.</p>
<p>barnard if you intend to transfer to columbia haha…or gain access to their resources</p>