<p>Hey I just have a question to ask about my current dorm situation. I go to a university that has a completely dry campus, however it is easy to connect with frats off campus or go to other schools in the area. However, my two roommates (I am in a forced triple) have decided they are going to keep bottles of vodka and whiskey in our room. They not only keep it in our room, but drink it in our room with other kids. This weekend I cam back at 2 am to find them drunk and the room reeking of whiskey and beer. I opened the window and soon their friends left, but it took all night to air out our room. What should I do about the alcohol? It's against policy to have alcohol in the dorms, let alone drink it in the rooms. If they are caught and I am in the room, I get the same consequences they do. I don't want to sound like a party-pooper who doesn't like to drink (I don't drink), but I also don't want something on my school records because my roommates are idiots. Any suggestions? Thanks!</p>
<p>Ask for a room transfer. I would not worry that you will get in trouble to the level they will. Heck, use this as proof of your concern. </p>
<p>What is the RA like? Are they someone who looks away, or are they involved? If they look away the alcohol in the room is not going to be an issue. If they are involved then they know you are not a part of the situation.</p>
<p>my RA is really strict. She is probably the hardest in our dorm. I like her rules, but not with this situation. I can’t request a room switch because there are so many freshman forced triples they have to go through the list before others can move around. And we are on that list and still waiting to hear if we can move. If I bring it up with someone, since we are dry, my roommates can get in trouble. I don’t want to tattle, but something needs to happen. I just don’t know if I should go ahead and talk to my RA or talk to my roommates first…</p>
<p>If it were me I would talk to my roommates first and say it makes me uncomfortable and that it is inconsiderate to risk getting the entire room in trouble and I am not cool with it. If they did not respond favorably I would tell. I would not risk getting in trouble with the school to protect my roommates, particularly not in a situation when they are being so inconsiderate to the non-drinking inhabitants of their room.</p>
<p>If she is really strict, than my guess would be she is already eye balling your room, I am sure she can figure out that you do not socialize with them, thus it goes back to you having a defense.</p>
<p>Twisted is correct, talk to them, however, expect that the room will become very icy regarding you. Be up front and honest. Say, you want to drink, do it in another room, not here. Tell them you do not want to tattle, but this is your college education too and do not want to live in this fear.</p>
<p>Listen to them regarding their response, and respond appropriately to debunk their belief that nobody will get in trouble.</p>
<p>Finally, I am sure this is not the 1st time that anyone ever drank in the dorms, what has happened historically when someone was caught. In other words are your fears unfounded. Every school now has a “no drinking” policy in dorms and on campus, very few ever get in horrific trouble when caught.</p>
<p>If you think they’ll agree to take it elsewhere once they know it bothers you, then by all means talk to them first. But don’t they already know? Don’t you think that your opening the windows to air out the room was a hint? Haven’t you done other things that make it clear that you’re not happy about their decision to keep alcohol? But if you think there’s a chance that they will react to a request like that by making life difficult for you – and especially if they decide to make life difficult for you by moving the alcohol so that it’s in your area of the room and then complaining to the RA about <em>you</em> – then I don’t think you owe it to them to talk to them first.</p>
<p>They should have talked to you before deciding to keep alcohol in the room so that you can get in trouble for it. They should have talked to you before deciding to drink alcohol in the room so that it reeks of alcohol and someone who just stops by can figure out what is happening there. And they should have talked to you before letting other students know that there is alcohol in the room, increasing the chance that the RA will find out. If they had talked to you first and you had said you were okay with it, I would think you owed it to them to talk to them before you talk to the RA. But if they didn’t talk to you before engaging in behavior that can get you punished, then I don’t think you have to talk to them before doing what you need to do to ensure that you don’t get punished for their decisions.</p>
<p>Talk to your roommates; put your foot down that you do NOT want alcohol in your room, because you can get in trouble for it even if you have nothing to do with it.</p>
<p>If they continue, then you need to go tell your RA before they find out and assume you’re part of it.</p>
<p>But, talk to them FIRST. Otherwise, that’s not cool.</p>
<p>At D’s college, anyone in the room where alcohol is found is ticketed, whether or not they have personally imbibed. A second violation gets you kicked out of the dorm. I’d tell your room mates that if the situation continues that you’ll need to formally advise the school that you’re being forced to live in a room where others are violating school policy. Not nice, but better than you getting punished unfairly.</p>
<p>I would talk to them first, as Yukichin said. Don’t be afraid of “not being cool”, put things straightforward and let them know that the risk of being punished is something you are not willing to bear.</p>
<p>Strict rules like this are tricky: lot of people can get along with non-compliance, but it could be YOU the one who happen to suffer the consequences if for any reason University decides to crack down, beginning with your floor.</p>
<p>My suggestion from past experiences: don’t accept any compromise as you would in cases like sexiling. Don’t accept anything like “we’re just keeping bottles here but not drinking with anyone else” and so on… Refuse to accept any booze, open or not.</p>
<p>If this don’t work, go through the food chain, starting with your RA. Given you said she’s tough, this will most likely solve the problem.</p>
<p>Better being “the dry jerk” than the one who lost FA.</p>
<p>“I don’t want to sound like a party-pooper who doesn’t like to drink (I don’t drink)”</p>
<p>What?</p>