Sorry to hear about your family issues, but you do realize that as an out of state applicant that you will receive no financial aid for all these schools. SDSU will cost you around $36K+/year and the UC’s around $60K/year.
Regarding your Stats:
ACT very low for all the schools on your list. Think ACT of 27+ for SDSU and around 30-32+ for UCSB/UCLA and UCSD.
The CSU and UC’s have their own GPA calculation using only 10-11th grades for all the a-g course requirements.
https://rogerhub.com/gpa-calculator-uc/
For SDSU, you want around a 3.8+ or higher while for the UC’s around a 4.0+.
Since you are in need of financial aid, you should first look to your in-state schools. These California schools are not affordable.