<p>My dear Moreover, I think you have an odd definition of “rants.” I have consistently gone out of my way to keep my tone civil and my arguments carefully reasoned. Which is more than I can say for several of my interlocuters.</p>
<p>“I got the UNC Honors College invite because I worked my ass off every day after school, not getting home most days before 4 P.M. while all of my friends got to leave early at the “senior bell”.”</p>
<p>golfer, what is your implication? Have I ever denigrated your achievements? Have I remotely implied that you did not deserve the recognition you’ve received? Not in the least. So, where is the problem?</p>
<p>As I have stated repeatedly, apparently to no avail, I am concerned about the money angle for entirely practical reasons. I have never suggested – in fact, I have strenuously denied – that my son is somehow “entitled” to merit aid at UNC. Am I disappointed that he has received none? Of course. That is only natural. The absence of merit aid essentially rules UNC out for us. At the same time, however, it also serves to clarify our choices. It throws Bama’s appeal into sharper relief. Most people want to to be where they’re wanted, after all.</p>
<p>I know you’re a teenager, and I’ve learned from experience that it’s no use arguing with a teenager. But, at the same time, I must say I find offensive your implication that your achievements make you somehow more worthy of scholarships, etc., than other UNC acceptees. You seem to imply that you alone have “worked your [tush] off,” etc. etc. etc. Surely you must recognize that this is going a bit far?</p>
<p>In a home-school, there is no “senior bell.” My kids follow a rigorous curriculum, day and night, throughout the year (including summers). Although they have participated in relatively few formal ECs (mostly church youth groups), they’ve spent a lot of time hiking, playing outdoors, and just being kids. Color me old-fashioned, but I think there’s something to be said for hiking down to the neighbors’ creek, finding box-turtles in the backyard, and sitting out on the back porch discussing Life on a sleepy summer afternoon.</p>
<p>My kids have focused more on academics than on “leadership” because, frankly, in our view, the primary purpose of school is learning. And, believe me, they’ve also worked their tushes off – just as much as you have, I guarantee. </p>
<p>My older son reads both Latin and Greek at a very advanced level. Are you arguing that such attainments require no effort, that they are negligible compared with ECs? </p>
<p>Does it occur to you that not everybody has access to the sort of extracurricular opportunities you’ve enjoyed? Do you think that poorer rural school districts offer, say, Mu Alpha Theta or a highly competitive debate club? Should kids be effectively penalized for having fewer EC opportunities? </p>
<p>I guess I am at a loss here. You have a particular view of What Education Should Be, and that’s fine. But it’s not necessarily everyone’s view. Nor is it the classical view – a view going back to Socrates and Plato, a view embodied in the great medieval universities of Paris, Bologna, and Oxford. Our family follows this classical view, and I would respectfully submit that it has just as much legitimacy as your own view. </p>
<p>“Leadership is the one thing colleges want,” you say. Says who? And since when? If you are a born leader, God bless you, and more power to you. But that doesn’t mean that every kid should be a leader, nor does it mean that that’s the primary thing colleges look for. Can you furnish any hard evidence that this is mainly what colleges are looking for? Somehow I tend to doubt it. </p>
<p>I’m not even sure what “leadership” means in an academic context. Academic leadership? Intellectual leadership? Moral leadership? That’s what it meant to Plato and Petrarch. If it now means “future CEOs and congressmen,” then God help us. (Only kidding…LOL!)</p>
<p>This thread is not the proper forum for a broader discussion of philosophy of education. But I do think such a discussion is worthwhile, perhaps in another CC forum. To tell the truth, before I came to CC, I had no idea that ECs were such an obsession – that students felt so compelled to knock themselves out racking up hundreds of “service hours” and so on. I view this trend with alarm, because I think it goes beyond healthy balance and moderation. When do today’s kids have time to just be kids? </p>
<p>This current fixation on ECs reminds me a bit of the wonderful discussion of “accomplishments” in Pride and Prejudice:</p>
<p>**“It is amazing to me,” said Bingley, “how young ladies can have patience to be so very accomplished as they all are.”</p>
<p>“All young ladies accomplished! My dear Charles, what do you mean?”</p>
<p>“Yes, all of them, I think. They all paint tables, cover screens, and net purses. I scarcely know any one who cannot do all this, and I am sure I never heard a young lady spoken of for the first time, without being informed that she was very accomplished.”</p>
<p>“Your list of the common extent of accomplishments,” said Darcy, “has too much truth. The word is applied to many a woman who deserves it no otherwise than by netting a purse, or covering a screen. But I am very far from agreeing with you in your estimation of ladies in general. I cannot boast of knowing more than half a dozen, in the whole range of my acquaintance, that are really accomplished.”</p>
<p>“Nor I, I am sure,” said Miss Bingley.</p>
<p>“Then,” observed Elizabeth, “you must comprehend a great deal in your idea of an accomplished women.”</p>
<p>“Yes; I do comprehend a great deal in it.”</p>
<p>“Oh! certainly,” cried his faithful assistant, “no one can be really esteemed accomplished, who does not greatly surpass what is usually met with. A woman must have a thorough knowledge of music, singing, drawing, dancing, and the modern languages, to deserve the word; and besides all this, she must possess a certain something in her air and manner of walking, the tone of her voice, her address and expressions, or the word will be but half deserved.”</p>
<p>“All this she must possess,” added Darcy, “and to all this she must yet add something more substantial, in the improvement of her mind by extensive reading.”</p>
<p>“I am no longer surprised at your knowing only six accomplished women. I rather wonder now at your knowing any.”**</p>
<p>And on that note, I will resist any further urge to “take the bait,” as my friend loring has put it. ;)</p>
<p>Diane</p>