@DemonDad
Hello! I have very similar stats to your son and almost looked into all of those schools mentioned on your list for software engineering. Rutgers is mostly about fit. The cost is great but the buses to classes, no interaction in class, and highest on campus crime rate in the country deterred me from applying. I did an overnight visit at RPI for a sport and absolutely loved it but the cost is too much. They dont give out much in scholarships either. TCNJ was perfect!! Extremely highly ranked, selective, beautiful and great campus fit, and the value is unbeatable.