<p>"what makes a kid become a Val or Sal?" Is it nature or nurture?"</p>
<p>I honestly don't know. In our family, unless it is a generation skipping thing (like a trust), it can't be nature. We're not dummies, mind you, but definitely not academic high achievers. I don't think it is nurture either, because the only thing my darling h pushes is working on 40 times and "defensive reads". Maybe my s worked so hard because he listened to me *****ing non-stop at his somewhat slacker (but NMF - Great test taker - full ride at UF - and yes, I think it can be unfair also, but we didn't turn down the $ ;)) older brother, and decided he wanted none of that! I can be quite loud when I want to :0</p>