What can I do about my homelessness/out of state tuition dilemma?

Your dad earns about $80k+ per year and you had to move out from a relative’s home and into an apartment (with a few temporary days in a car when a hotel was likely affordable): it doesn’t sound accurate to refer to this as homelessness since your family wasn’t penniless.

Have you looked into what it takes to gain residency for tuition purposes?