What can you say when someone insults your choice of friends?

<p>Rather than punching them, which is what I'd like to do. Background? I'm not really into judging people on their looks or geekiness or what have you, so my friends are an eclectic bunch. They're wonderful, nice people and very loyal but a few are a little over weight, a couple like to play <em>gasp</em> table top RPGs, and some are drop-dead gorgeous and have wonderful personalities.</p>

<p>I was on campus yesterday with a few of my girlfriends (all three who are on the heavier side, since this is relevant later) and we went to a grill restaurant for a late dinner. We were seated by a bunch of guys, one of whom was in my class, so I make small talk while our server gets there. One guy signed up for the same math class as me so we're chatting and suddenly he busts out this line: "So, what are you doing with them?" Excuse me? That's sort of a vague statement so I said we were out to dinner to chat and catch up. "No, I meant why are you hanging out with them on a Friday night? You're too pretty to just be hanging around, well, you know... with girls like that instead of going out and partying." </p>

<p>WHAT? What kind of an arrogant moron walks around thinking like that? I said he was a jerk and got our table changed but my friends heard everything and the mood was kind of shot. I told them not to worry about jerkbags like that but those kinds of comments still hurt. I told one of my guy friends and he thought I was being a priss; "He was complimenting you and you told him he was a jerk?" ARG!</p>

<p>People are always going to have something to say, positive or negative; you can only control how you respond. </p>

<p>Call him an idiot and move on.</p>

<p>lmao, are you in high school? that story epitomizes hs drama in my mind.</p>

<p>anyway, i’m a guy, and i don’t think i’ve ever dealt with a situation like this.</p>

<p>I would thank them for the compliment but tell them they’re your friends, and you’ll do what you want when you want to do it.</p>

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<p>I’m a sophomore in college, thanks. And it’s not drama when someone basically calls your best friends fatties and people who aren’t worth hanging out with. I’m not mad for me, because why would I give a hole what a few jerks said? I’m mad for my friends who don’t deserve to be put down like that.</p>

<p>just say
no u</p>

<p>Well, ultimately the goal is to make sure your friends don’t get any wrong idea, no? If the guy is a jerk, well that’s his problem and it’ll come back to bite him anyway. A simple “wow, what an idiot” is all the reaction necessary, I think. </p>

<p>I think telling the friends why you don’t think highly of the guy’s logic is infinitely better than just saying “what a lousy lunatic.” Not in a defensive, justifying way, just calmly and considerately.</p>

<p>I’m sure we all know people we can’t imagine exist at all.</p>

<p>LOL</p>

<p>Yeah. Sure.</p>

<p>that guy sounds like an ass, if i were a girl I would’ve stood up, acted angry, *****slapped him hard and then walk away to get another table.</p>

<p>ur so pretty and smart . . . . <3</p>

<p>just the other day i was walking down the street and women were bowing down in worship of me. i said “women. please. i’m only human, you know.” wow, those women were a little desperate don’t u think??? i just hate that!~</p>

<p>to be fair, a lot of guys have the mindset of that guy – they just don’t say it openly. the idea of a “wingman” wouldn’t exist if guys if that mentality wasn’t prevalent.</p>

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<p>You should date the OP! It’s clear that you guys are 100% compatible, since both those stories are totally true. ;)</p>

<p>this one time i was in the library studying for my class Quantum Mechanics XXX. (That’s 30 in case you can’t read roman numerals. it’s a hard class, that’s why there’s a 30 after the name of it) </p>

<p>so okay, a girl walks up, looks at my book and says “Quantum Mechanics XXX huh. maybe we can do a little bit of that later tonight if you know what i mean. wink.”</p>

<p>in disgust, i stood up and slapped her in the face. “can’t a guy just study in peace without having women drooling over me!” i exclaimed. i packed my book into my bag and got the hell out of there.</p>

<p>wow. some people are just so superficial u know???</p>

<p><em>bows down to silence_kit</em></p>

<p>You wanna go out on a date?!?!? :)</p>

<p>ahahahahahaha</p>

<p>gj unraveling the true purpose of this thread</p>

<p>sorry ur too dumb and superficial 4 me~ (and ugly)</p>

<p>maybe if u leave that r. paul fellow i’ll give it a thought. it won’t take me long 2 think tho b/c im super smart!</p>

<p>VVVV she deserved it for being so vapid</p>

<p>“in disgust, i stood up and slapped her in the face.”</p>

<p>You’re not supposed to hit girls. :(:(:(</p>

<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/692451-proper-way-tell-people-i-dont-want-their-friendship-without-offending-them.html?highlight=Lakrosse[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/692451-proper-way-tell-people-i-dont-want-their-friendship-without-offending-them.html?highlight=Lakrosse&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>Excuse you, but are you PARODYING THE OP? It’s almost like you’re implying that she made up this story to get attention. I find that highly offensive.</p>

<p>OH MY GOD IT’s OFFENSIVE. :eek:</p>

<p>Listen, just cut the liberal plolitically correct BS and let things go.</p>