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<p>Guys still have to pursue women, it's how the society works... last time I checked, I'm not having a bunch of girls buying me drinks at bars, asking me for numbers, and trying to impress me with their jokes.... thus, reading a book on how to read women when you are interested in talking/beginning the process with them can't be all that "pathetic", ESPECIALLY if it WORKS!</p>
<p>The System, by Roy Valentine tells you to never lie to get a woman... and never have one night stands... but it does help you to know how to figure out if a girl is even interested in you or not so you don't waste your time just becoming a damn chump.</p>
<p>So, think what you want, boys, I'll continue to date girls, and seek the one that I find to be the true match for me---by being myself, and telling them the truth... but, ofcourse, I have to afford myself that opportunity first, and being a second hand chump won't get that for me enough to really find what I'm looking for. The bigger the selection I provide for myself, and the more girls I'm able to keep on the plate for possible relationships, the better for me.... then I'm not stuck choosing between one or two, or less.</p>
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i dont know about you, 311griff, but when i first see a woman, i don't immediately "check them out for future sexual relations." to me, that's like being some sort of sexual predator!
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<p>So you don't check out girls? You just hang with your buddies and when a good looking girl walks by, you just look at her and think, "oh, that's a girl, so she goes by 'she', yeah!" Are you not heterosexual?</p>
<p>Most the straight guys I know check girls out, and there's no denying that for me.... and it's not to be sexual predators, it's just because the female form, when proportioned well, affords male attention.</p>
<p>I'm not saying that I only care about personality. Sure the first thing I look for is looks. But the difference between a one night stand and a relationship is the personality match.</p>
<p>I like a guy that says "yes" when I ask him out. Now, that's hot!</p>
<p>Yesssssssssss!!!;)</p>
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I like a guy that says "yes" when I ask him out. Now, that's hot!
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<p>nice/kind? Yes, but he should know how [and when] to stand up for himself. I hate mean guys.
looks? He does need to seem attractive to me, but it depends and not extremely important.
wealth? I don't care. I never expect things from people, but I can't stand anyone who's arrogant or cheap.
athletic abilities? It doesn't really matter, but he needs to be open.
cool-ness? I need to find him cool, which isn't necessarily what others think. He shouldn't try too hard to be cool either.
style? It doesn't really matter, though I like guys who dress simply [unless he can't, like for a special occasion or something]. Also I hate sagging pants.
intelligence? He doesn't need to be a genius, but dumb guys are ew. I think being smart is cool, as long as he's not arrogant.
dominating? Heck no. We should have equal say. </p>
<p>That was fun.</p>
<p>I like a guy that says "yes" when I ask him out. Now, that's hot!</p>
<p>omg we have a rare one (or at least I think so). I have personally never heard of or seen anyone get asked out on a date by a girl. I've seen girls throw themselves at guys or asked indirectly (or directly) to go to their dorm room lol, but never for a date. And I've been in the US for one full semester now :p</p>
<p>I asked a guy to my school's Winter Ball in 9th grade. He declined. That's okay; we would've been a terrible match.</p>
<p>I thought I'd ask this other guy if he wants to go out for coffee or something. He's acted in ways that suggest he might be interested, but I think I might've scared him off by acting aloof or disinterested (really I'm just shy)... so I figure if anything's going to happen before he graduates, I'll have be the one to make a move.</p>
<p>confidence definitely. If I turn a guy down, he'd be 10x more attractive if he laughs about it than sulk or just accept and walk away.</p>
<p>i completely agree comsohr.</p>
<p>Ok... hmm... I m getting greats tips from u girls :p</p>
<p>what do u girls mean by confidence? i know what the word means but i need some examples. ps thanks for all ur advice!</p>
<p>Self Confidence in boys. If I will propose u for a Date and u turn it down, then I must show confidence in myself and shouldnt just shy away, and so still talk as usual. Right cosmohr?</p>
<p>I am the only one here who is interested in girls for reasons not related to sex? </p>
<p>The only reason I respect females is for their intelligence and maturity, not about their "sizes" ;) . The friends I have are so one-minded and silly that it makes me sick. I enjoy having serious and mature conversations and I love sharing my thoughts, and I find girls to be perfect for this. They're so mature and understanding that retracting my sexual urges is easy for me. Of course there are "sluts," and I usually try to avoid them cause I dont percieve them as humans.</p>
<p>To answer your question, girls like guys who are confident and cute. I used to be extremely shy around hot girls until I loosened up to the extent I became too "cocky." I dont think we have matured enough to sustain a healthy "love" relationship; I tend to view girls simply as close friends. I love myself as a single person, but dont get the idea that I'm gay or whatever :) I have my hormones kicking quite often ;)</p>
<p>nahrafsfa, I remember you posting before that you turned down sex. LOL, you are one strong Muslim.</p>
<p>You will only enjoy "it" when you really have some serious chemistry with the girl, one night stands suck ass.</p>
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The only reason I respect females is for their intelligence and maturity, not about their "sizes" . The friends I have are so one-minded and silly that it makes me sick. I enjoy having serious and mature conversations and I love sharing my thoughts, and I find girls to be perfect for this. They're so mature and understanding that retracting my sexual urges is easy for me.
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There aren't enough guys like you 'round here... or in high school in general, I'm afraid.</p>
<p>There r many of that type in India atleast :)</p>
<p>Lol, I like this thread!</p>
<p>girls like guys who act like *******s and have money.</p>
<p>and thats the truth.</p>
<p>astrife you stole my message, of course a 18 or 19 year old girl will be caught up on looks, etc...they seems to become a lot less important once you reach 30, they won't a nice, guy with a stable income, who can be a good provider.</p>