<p>Amith1 - one of the things that may be happening is that YOU are doing the asking/demanding - instead of your SON doing it - as he is the legal entity involved - the school does seem to uphold the privacy laws issues from what you are posting - so maybe HE needs to be the one involved regarding the dorm issues/change of roomy.</p>
<p>As far as housing - it is not unusual for schools NOT to guarantee housing for 4 years - actually it is pretty common not to - and even if it is not on their web site - you have somehow been informed about it - so now it is time to do some planning - there is still time to do that - actually NOW is the time that students at other schools are in the process of procuring their housing for next fall - mine included - with several options available I am sure - renting a room - an apartment - house - all inclusive off campus apartment, etc..........</p>
<p>As far as infractions of the schools rules/housing rules - may be a good time to review the student handbook - usually has info about the rules and regs - how to file complaints by students - judiciary issues - etc..... The roomy issue - the alcohol in the room - if he is a minor it should have been addressed - and your son can go to the RA and talk to them on how to deal with this issue - HE also has the right to file a complaint. In many schools - as long as all the students living in the room are over 21 they can have alcohol in the room - others say no way. There HAS to be written rules/regs somewhere - go find them.</p>
<p>If issues are not resolved - YOUR SON has some choices to make - study in the library - or other quiet place - inconvenient to some but may be best way to handle it. If roomy problem - HE needs to go to RA or housing manager - or even call campus police if laws are being broken - but HE needs to handle it.</p>
<p>Your son may be quiet and shy - but he was smart enough to get himself to college - now he needs to figure out how to problem solve issues himself. You need to support him - but it may be time for you to back off a bit and let him manage things - and try to trust him to do it. If he says he is passing his classes - believe him - if proven otherwise - then deal with it then - but for now give him the benefit of the doubt that he is doing ok. Positive guidance can go a looooong way - but overbearing pressure can be very harmful and defeat all the purposes.</p>