What do you get from ivy league schools that you aren't getting from top state schools?

There is very little reason to attend an Ivy for Eng or CS over a top public. Neither are the Ivies the best in these areas nor the classes (size) that lean. Very few privates do shine like MIT, Stanford, Caltech and CMU but the premium (+10-20k per year) is highly debatable for others for a full pay family like ours.