What else can I do to make friends?

<p>So I transferred to college in Florida from a community college this past august. I had to live off campus last semester cause my school doesn't have transfer housing like some colleges do. I had some horrible roommates, but I became really good friends with a frat guy in school. He was able to get me into parties and be my wingman when we would go to bars, etc. But he graduated last semester. I try to be active in clubs and student government and got new roommates plus I work out almost every day and I work at school, but I feel like I don't have any real good friends. I don't get invited to parties and when I go to bars and clubs I go solo. I was gonna rush, but I missed it cause I was in washington DC. Like I envy those who get to spend 4 years at my school, because then they can make real bonds. I feel like I cant, now that my buddy graduated. Like I don't know what i'm supposed to do anymore</p>

<p>I would look around in your classes. People who are taking the same classes as you surely share some interests. Perhaps you could get a study group together. After studying, the same people might want to get something to eat. Is there anything for transfer students? I would think that there would be some other transfers; you just have to find them.</p>

<p>I think that when you transfer in you get the feeling that everyone has their groups, but as people grow up, they constantly change friends.</p>

<p>When my daughter switched high schools, I told her to look for the kids who looked different from her because they would feel as though they don’t fit in, too. It worked for her, and she still seeks out a really mixed group of friends. Good luck.</p>

<p>Well i’ve become friendly with some kids in my classes, but like right now we haven’t really hung out of outside of class. I mean tonight, school had basketball game, went there and now I want to go out and chill with people, but I don’t have anyone to really hang out with. SO it’s nights like this where I feel intense lonliness</p>

<p>Hang in there. It stinks to be on a campus where it appears that everybody else is having a great time. My bet is that there are plenty of people sitting around some place.</p>

<p>I teach study skills at a community college and one of the stories I tell my students is that when I was in college, I had two goals. They think that I am going to share some great philosophical nuggets…I say the first goal was to graduate, which I did, and the second was to have a date by Wednesday for Friday. I usually had the date, too, but some weeks it was a lot of work.</p>

<p>I know that dating has changed. Is there a movie group on campus? That would be something that you could go to alone. Hope you find a group soon.</p>

<p>oh i’ve done that lol. i don’t wanna give off the impression that I don’t go out, i do and i love it, even if its by myself. I just don’t have that great group of friends to hang out with and it sucks cause i see everyone else around with those group of friends.</p>

<p>Living off campus can suck because sometimes you feel so…isolated from the world lol. I know how you feel because I’m a freshman who lives off-campus…alone. It sucks sometimes, but it’s really nice when I want time to myself after a rough day of exams.</p>

<p>Making friends weren’t a huge problem for me and I’ve made a lot through my classes, actually. I think you should just continue being who you are and initiate conversations in class. I mean, don’t try and hang out with them fast, but just keep talking to them and soon you guys will know if you want to hang out outside of class. I know it can get hard, especially in 450+ lecture halls <em>shudders</em>, but it’s definitely possible for other classes. Just keep being active, initiate conversations everywhere you go, and be happy. If people see you as a friendly guy, they will definitely want to be your friend.</p>

<p>Good luck. Hope I helped a little.</p>

<p>thanks. yeah lecture halls are ridiculous to try to talk to people in lol.</p>

<p>I agree with the previous poster about putting forth a happy and positive attitude. That will attract more people than anything else. Making friends is something that needs to come naturally and spontaneously. it is not something that you can push. It is similar to finding a significant other. People will look and look for a girl or boy friend and just can’t seem to meet anyone. Then when they have given up on looking and get busy in their lives, someone will pop up.</p>

<p>That same philosophy can work for having friends as well. basically when you are doing your own thing and enjoying life on your own, you become a more interesting person. That makes you more attractive to others that will want to befriend you. </p>

<p>Get busy in different ways. No, you don’t want to be the one guy alone at a crowded event, so get involved in things that will put you in a crowd with a purpose. Join clubs that do volunteer work. Working with people is a good way to make friends. Join a group that does a sport together. Get busy and stop thinking about being lonely. You probably will have friends before you know it.</p>