<p>Occasionally (not on this thread) someone will deny the concept of "fit" altogether, as if it were a fantasy, and a kid could "fit" anywhere. For some kids, that may true - any one of a dozen or more schools would be fine. But when I look at my kids, I think "fit" is the single most important of the criteria for selecting a school. There is a HUGE difference between many schools, even those ranked closely together. One may be far more jock, Greek, techie, artsy, etc. Some schools are cutthroat competitive, some are more collaborative (and all alongthe spectrum in between, just as with politics). While all schools have kids of different stripes, it's very clear to me that the person who wants to go to Brigham Young is different from the one who wants to go Wesleyan, or the kid who wants a huge, gigantic football powerhouse school is different from the one that wants a New England LAC.</p>
<p>One of my relatives wanted a NE varsity sailing team - and it HAD to be ocean sailing, not lake....with GREAT academics...so OK, Brown, Bowdoin, Conn Coll , should all be fine, right? But she hated New London; had good friends at Brown and stayed overnight etc., but she didn't like it, and a friend of hers had transferred out after a year to Bowdoin...went to Bowdoin, and found that of her list of ten things she wanted in a college, it met all of them. She has been extremely happy there and never regretted her choice (she turned down Dartmouth, btw).</p>
<p>I think certain kids know *exactly * what they want. Others may be happy with just half of their criteria being met.</p>
<p>One caveat: by "fit" I certainly don't mean "full of kids exactly like you." That's not fit, it's conformity. As kathiep said, "challenge" matters, and not just for academics, but for stretching oneself beyond what one has always experienced.</p>
<p>Whatever the case, digmedia's list is great. Fortunately for us, cost is not a problem, and I really feel for kids who have monetary constraints. Yet even there, money should not be the first consideration. Among affordable schools, there are still schools with radically different cultures.</p>
<p>Anyway who denies that "fit" is real should interview kids who are sublimely happy at their schools, like my kids and my relatives, and those who are either so wretched that they want to transfer, or so half-hearted that all they can muster is an, "It's ok, I guess."</p>