<p>Tyg, so what if word gets around? Go for it, mate.</p>
<p>:)</p>
<p>girls do attraction totally differently than boys. we often become physically attracted to a boy because we like his personality. I don't think that goes the other way. that said, i'm big on
1. intelligence
2. sense of humor
3. good conversationalist</p>
<p>not that i really have any right to have a "type," considering my complete lack of experience with all things boy.</p>
<ol>
<li>good conversationalist</li>
<li>attractiveness</li>
<li>intelligence</li>
<li>a good dancer (i can't dance evenif you torture me)</li>
<li>JESSE DE SILVA-like</li>
</ol>
<p>now, if any of you girls know any guy who looks anything at all, or have any resemblance, to this guy:</p>
<p>with 1-5 down pat, then please... GIVE ME A PIC! :D jk on the give me part!</p>
<ol>
<li>good ethics/morality</li>
<li>personality (including interesting, knowledgeable, hardworking, intelligent, funny, considerate, eloquent)</li>
<li>looks (frankly I don't care as long he's not Quasimodo)</li>
<li>gentlemanly/romantic (I detest boorish, hairy, overly-muscular alpha males)</li>
<li>artistic, whether it's painting or music or writing. I can't stand living with anyone who only talks about mundane geeky/gadgety things, which is different from a polished intellectual who talks about fun things like parallel universe theories and critiques Einstein's theorem. There's a big difference.</li>
<li>similar to me in every way, I suppose.</li>
</ol>
<p>thisyearsgirl:</p>
<p>go for it. seriously, the statement "omg, that was embarassing" is better than "noooo... why didn't i try???!!". you never know unless you try... :D</p>
<p>Nice people do indeed finish last. Girls are shallow too. From a male point of view, it's always the same boys getting hit on. Or the same TYPE of boy. Maybe some of us just suck at being desireable... Still, my high-school is like a recycling center. The same things/boys get used/dated over and over and over and over since I moved here ages ago. So much for girls being not-shallow.</p>
<p>Yeah, but a girl can meet a guy that she is not very attracted to (based on looks alone.) If he has a great personality, though, she often ends up becoming more attracted to him because she can see past the looks...I don't see this happening as much with guys.</p>
<p>Ahh! Purrli in #45 said that she "can't stand living with anyone who only talks about mundane geeky/gadgety things, which is different from a polished intellectual who talks about fun things like parallel universe theories and critiques Einstein's theorem."</p>
<p>I have to make point: But geeky/gadgety things are not mundane; but the new opinion is interesting. They are in fact very interesting if you yourself happen to be interested in it. I wonder where all the geeky/gadgety girls are in the world... Do you know? Oh, and it's Einstein's THEORY. A theorem is something in mathematics that can be proven using basic axioms. But yes... Parallel universes... Layman's science: Physics fun for everyone!</p>
<p>you made a rhyme^^ :D and good point</p>
<p>For me, I generally first notice a guy because I am attracted to him, and for the most part, the guys that I'm attracted to don't always fit the everyone-other-girl-in-the-universe-thinks-he's-hot-too bill, which is fine by me. But, I start to actually want to begin a relationship with him based upon what his morals (must match mine!!), level of intelligence, self-interest (as in hygiene and health), and fun factor (spontaneity, strong sense of humor) turn out to be. Obviously, he also has to be willing to put up wi/ my peculiarites, too. Basically...</p>
<p>Looks but no personality = not a chance wi/ me
personality wi/ kinda iffy looks = yeah, there is more to a guy than his looks :)</p>
<p>Girls look for something long, hard, and thick.</p>
<p>Personally, I find it a turnoff when guys start talking about cars or video games and mechanics. It's just as annoying as when a girl start talking about her clothes and hair and makeup. Admittedly if I were a guy, I'd like a girl who dresses nicely, but she doesn't have to babble about it 24/7. Likewise, guys who are wise in technology/fixes computers/builds iPods are interesting, but they don't have to TALK about it alllllllll the time. It's the talk that crosses the boundary between an Intellectual and a Geek :P. I dig the former, not the later.</p>
<p>JamesN, if it was that simple, then we might as well give up our status as higher life-form with developed society. If ONLY it was that simple...</p>
<p>And Purrli... Those boys you speak of are the kinds of people I'm scared of finding when I go to Stanford. They say people need to be cool. And to be cool means they can't talk about such things. I think the difference is between closeted "intellectual" who is insecure about their skills, and a proud person who isn't afraid of sharing their passions. And btw, you're from Stanford, right? So I assume you know what I'm talking about.</p>
<p>no kidding...on a very basic level, yes that is true, but for the most part we look for something more</p>
<p>
[quote]
From a male point of view, it's always the same boys getting hit on.
[/quote]
Yes, because the nice girls who like the nice guys aren't the type to HIT ON people. Most likely, they've just given up on pursuing guys after years of being taught that because they don't have curves in all the right places, and don't spend their time whoring themselves out to guys, they must be undesireable people. It works both ways. </p>
<p>So if I gather the composure to "hit on" that nice guy, will you go ahead and flirt with a shy girl (who probably opens up quite a bit once she realizes that yes, you wanted to talk to HER, not the popular slutty girl a few seats over)? I know she'd appreciate it...</p>
<p>No, no... I'm not saying everyone should be "hitting on" everyone. The phrase itself has all the wrong connotations. I mean something more like "direct romantic interest into". It's always the same people. I'm tempted to bring in the "male friend" argument, but I'm sure you know the situation where a boy (me) has to endure the talk of other females (my friends) about the hotness of another male specimen. And don't get me started about the complaints that go along the lines of "where are all the nice people?".</p>
<p>I recommend all shy girls to try talking to your local nice boy as often as possible. Assuming any talked to me (and that I wasn't tied down already) I am sure to return the attention. As many nice boys tend not to get enough attention, and thus a new friend is always appreciated. Besides, it's awfully flattering and sweet.</p>
<p>Now about flirting... I can think of nothing more honorable than to make someone happy by giving them a bit of your attention. And it's usually the shy unsure girls that tend to be the most endearing (and rewarding in relationships). So yes, holding those assumptions, I would. But whether it will escalate to anything more, I don't know. Friendly flirting and romantic intent is hard to classify.</p>
<p>That's just me. I know a lot of boys who would ignore a girl like that and walk away, thinking it would be uncool to be seen talking to her. It really is a shame, because I live on the principle that everyone deserves love (if they want it). Which is maybe why life is so difficult. Why can't we all just get what we want / be happy without all this... society... getting in the way? Idealistic, huh.</p>
<p>And um... How do you quite another post directly? [feels stupid] I used to run another forum that had a button for that...</p>
<p>1) knows how to have a good time
2) accomplished/successful/$$$
3) hottness level
4) not a major pimp
5) can make me laugh a lot
6) can cook something hot/spicy
7) really nice/lovable
8) not albino/pale</p>
<p>im quite picky</p>
<p>cryptopath: Great post. I agree with a lot of what you said.</p>
<p>As for quoting-- <quote="username">whatever, but use the [square brackets] instead of <these>.</these></quote="username"></p>