My daughter refuses to check the rest of her decisions. She claims if she got into any of the remaining 4 she’d receive the welcome mailer via Fed Ex or USPS. Or welcome student e-mails, like an invite to admitted student day, financial aid, etc. Is this true in all cases – or do you have to open the portal to trigger these?
She says checking the remaining 4 will just make her depressed if it’s 4 rejections, so why bother?
edit: 3 Ivies, 1 non Ivy elite
If she were accepted she would receive a welcome packet by USPS/FedEx/UPS. If no welcome package, then she was denied or waitlisted.
The only downside will be if she was admitted to one and the May 1 deadline passes, she will be out of luck.
I’m not sure if all schools send a hard copy acceptance as well, but I think she’s right - they’d likely send follow up emails to entice her to come. Schools want the kids to come if they’ve accepted them.
You don’t have to open the portal to ‘release’ the packet or follow-up emails like admitted student day invite, financial aid, etc., do you?
She needs to check. Avoiding a potentially disappointing situation isn’t the way to hande it. It’s a tough lesson to learn, but it’s part of growing up. If she’s waitlisted, maybe she can take some pleasure in rejecting them!
We were told by GW they did not send hard copy acceptances to international addresses so it is conceivable that other schools may not do hard copy acceptances.
We’re domestic
Does she have an acceptance to a school she’s happy to attend?
Late now, but some colleges track whether applicants check the portal and use it as a way of determining level of applicant’s interest that they use in admission.
^^^ student has already applied and a decision has been rendered. She just won’t check for the decision.
@GnocchiB she’s content but not enthused about her current options. the last couple portals she checked were a WL and two rejections. they did a number on her, I think she’s just mentally exhausted with it all
I think any admissions package(s) would have arrived yesterday. aren’t they sent priority? tomorrow at the latest, I assume.
If she’s not enthused with the birds she has in hand, then why not check? One could be a WL that she may want to stay on.
I get the mental exhaustion, though.
Will she let you check?
no. I wouldn’t ask. I am slightly intrigued about something unexpectedly arriving in the mail monday or tuesday? doubtful, to be sure. but even if not, she’ll simmer down by then and it sort of blunts the rejections as we’ll know they’re rejections ahead of time
At some schools with portals, my kid’s application packets lagged by weeks. She is playing games with a costly decision. I’d insist that she checks, since it is likely your money on the line for college.
Although I can appreciate her anxiety I would also insist she check. My daughter got her wisdom teeth out on Tuesday morning, and got a waitlist decision that evening, two rejections the next day and her final rejection the day after that. it was a very emotional and difficult stretch of days. But honestly by the time the last rejection came we were both relieved that at least there were no more pending decisions to worry about.
If she got accepted, there may be links to sign up for admitted student days and the longer you wait the more you risk that all of the available slots will fill up. If she got waitlisted, there would be links to accept a spot on the waitlist. And although there is no way of knowing how they decide who to pick off the waitlist, it’s possible they take a quick sign-up to the waitlist as a sign of interest.
I can say that if she got into one of the ivies she would already know through email. Cornell sent an email the next day pertaining to admitted students
Some students aren’t great about checking their email as well.
I can understand why she feels that way but avoiding the situation isn’t a particularly healthy or mature way of dealing with it. She should bother bc knowing the decisions will help her determine how to move forward.
Honestly, the not knowing seems more stressful than a rejection.