<p>The "I" is me, an over-involved parent. I feel so awful that I told my son to move his bed, because now that I see how his room is set-up, I realize he has absolutely no privacy. His bed sticks out in the middle of the room. And it's my fault. </p>
<p>It started when he texted me about his bed choice. He was the first in the room because he's in the school's band. So with all the options, he chose this particular bed, but he mentioned the bed was "near the door". So I told him to rearrange, which he did. Now that I see how he moved everything around, I'm so sorry I spoke up.</p>
<p>I know I'm too involved and he'll be fine. But, since this is one of those places where other (overly involved) parents share their stories, share yours.</p>
<p>No judgement from me!
But my advice is to repeat that last phrase “he’ll be fine”
He will. And probably faster if you just let him work it out now…if he worries aloud to you about HIM not liking it, encourage him to figure out how he likes it, and/or encourage brainstorming arrangement ideas w/ roommate(s). He may not even care how it is set up.</p>
<p>Good luck I know it is hard not to worry. Old habits die hard.</p>
<p>On move-in day D1’s roommate’s mom had very definite ideas about how the room should and shouldn’t be arranged. The other dad and I schlepped the furniture around the room into several configurations to find just the right one that pleased her. But I wasn’t worried. I knew as soon as we parents were out of sight the girls would arrange the room exactly how they wanted it.</p>
<p>Oh goodness, they’ll either leave the furniture where it is for the entire semester or they’ve move it around in a couple weeks and maybe hang the beds from the ceiling (true, my oldest’s freshman suitemates hung all the beds from I-beams they found above the acoustical tiles). I worried the entire mess would fall down or they would be charged an arm and leg (neither happened). Not for you to worry about let it go. You saw it once and it’ll never look the same again whether they move the furniture or not.</p>
<p>If he doesn’t like it, he’ll probably rearrange it to suit his needs. Don’t worry about it. Does he have a roommate?</p>
<p>My son’s dorm room freshman year was SO TINY, there was not enough room for both beds, dressers, and desks to all be on the floor. They had to be bunked or lofted. The boys were going to loft them but had a miscommunication with the company that provided the lofting equipment, so they ended up bunking them and it worked out fine. I remember worrying about it from clear across the country, too. :)</p>
<p>Don’t worry at all about it - they’ll probably rearrange the room again a time or two anyway - it’ll probably be rearranged before posters quit responding to this thread!</p>
<p>In our time, students rearranged their dorm room furniture about once a week.</p>
<p>In my kids’ time, they only shoved it around a bit so that all of their electronic contraptions could be plugged in easily into the always inconveniently located outlets – hopefully, without too many wires running across the floor.</p>
<p>Your son and his roommate (if he has one) will probably settle on the arrangement that allows for the most convenient use of the electrical outlets.</p>
<p>Marian, LOL here. Exactly. Boys check out the electrical outlets and where the contraptions can all fit. Of course, my son always took along extra power bars because he is his father’s son! DH and I just got back from a trip overseas…critical item for DH, power bar!</p>
<p>He really will be ok. If he and roommate don’t like the configuration, or it doesn’t work for them, they’ll change it around. I don’t think it’s something you need to worry about. And don’t be too hard on yourself, either. :)</p>
<p>D’s roommate chose a very awkward orientation for her bed, and by the time we came back for parent’s weekend it had long since been moved. It didn’t affect my daughter either way, but she was happy to help her get it moved once the roommate figured out how hard the original arrangement made getting into her closet.</p>
<p>I didn’t mention anything about my worries. I doubt his roommates (2) will want to change anything since they got a much preferred arrangement. And my DS is much too accommodating to ask to switch things around. I’m just annoyed at myself at myself for saying anything. That’s it! Launch is over and he has to speak up for himself.</p>