<p>cellardweller…I think you misunderstood my point about expressing interest in a college. It isn’t so much about visits, no. And yes, of course everyone who applies to schools like Harvard or of that level is “interested.” What I meant is that the student needs to demonstrate and articulate very specifically why THAT particular school FITS them and why THIS STUDENT fits that school. My own children, as well as all my advisees, craft very specific statements about this for every school that differs greatly from app to app. Yes, it is extra work. Also, on visits, they met with very specific people…professors in their area of interest, department heads, current students, heads of certain ECs or clubs and so on. Lots to relate to that was very specific. They tried to show why each school related to their selection criteria in very very very specific ways that could not be written about ANY other college on their list (if they could interchange the college name, the essay needed to be rewritten). Also, their statement of “interest” should not have been interchangeable with any other student because it was about how the student also fit the college and how they would contribute to that specific student body. So, no, it wasn’t about just visiting and signing in at the admissions office to show you made a trip to campus!!! They also did interviews with each school or alum. These all take time. Harder to do with 18 schools. A lot of time and effort went into EACH specific school. They didn’t approach it as one size fits all their apps. Did not even use the Common App. </p>
<p>I do not believe that all the Ivies or other elite schools are similar. Yes, they all provide top notch academics. They all have super duper smart, motivated, active and engaged student bodies. There is no question in my mind that one is not better than the other in this regard. But they differ a GREAT deal. There is NO way my kid would ever apply to all 8 Ivies as not every one even appealed to her selection criteria! She was not a “must have an Ivy!” kid. She had selection criteria, which definitely included “very selective, challenging, rigorous, etc.” But there are more than 8 schools with that description…way more. So, she found ones that not only fit that basic parameter but fit many other specific selection criteria for herself, and what would be a good fit for her. If you’d ask her, she’d say that Harvard was a wonderful school but it did not match her criteria. Same with Dartmouth. While admitted to Penn, it was not one of her favored schools on her list and she liked Tufts better…better fit…still as strong academically. </p>
<p>I’m a firm believer in “fit” with colleges. Brown fit my kid perfectly. And no, it is not the same as some schools people are likening it to! It’s NOT better, but it really fit my kid. She loved so many things about it and I do believe there is a certain type of atmosphere and student who is attracted to this school, though there are overlaps with other schools. Many are driven and independent. The open curriculum allows for some things that a different curriculum does not. And no, there are NOT a lot of requirements…simply the requirements for your major. Every student in class WANTS to be in that class. Every college, even among the Ivies, have different vibes. One needs to find “their place.” </p>
<p>I’m in agreement with what vicariousparent and emeraldkity have expressed. Only on CC…it is the only place where I have run into “any Ivy will do”…“let’s apply to them all plus Stanford, MIT”. I can’t imagine thinking this way and my own kids did not. Each school on their list was on it because it matched up with a personalized list of selection criteria. And yes, “highly selective” was a criteria for my kid who landed at Brown. “Ivy” was in NO WAY her selection criteria. She had a list of what she wanted in a school. It ended up that four Ivies did land on her list…those four happened to fit what she wanted. The ones that fit best were Brown and Yale. She doesn’t think these are the two best colleges, but rather these were the two that fit what she was looking for. And while she got into Cornell and Columbia for grad school, she did not apply as undergrad (did not appeal) and in the end, while tops in her grad field, she did not choose to attend either. She went with “best fit” for UG and Grad. Turns out that both times, the schools were highly selective (Brown and MIT) but that was just one aspect of picking…she could give you a list of what about each school fit HER. That is truly how she picked. It wasn’t about rounding up the top ranked schools (she had never seen the rankings…nobody talks of those where we live either) and applying to every single one in the top 15. She found schools that matched her list of what she wanted in a school. Even top schools such as Harvard, as wonderful as that school is (who could argue with that?..in fact, I even went to grad school there!), did not make her list (though she was a contender), because it was not a best fit. For my other D, I realize most on this forum are not familiar with the top BFA in MT programs but ONE of them is CCM…was not a good fit with what my D wanted and while she applied to many top programs, she did not apply to that one, even though it is highly regarded. She landed at another very well regarded one, NYU/Tisch, which was a perfect fit for her. I would never say it is the best BFA program in the land but it was the best one for her, while still being highly selective and one of the so called “top ones.” But not any “top one” would do. It had to FIT.</p>