<p>Sue, you need a ((((hug))) first. I know this is a frustrating situation . I do think you are enabling his behavior somewhat as we mothers do sometimes. But, you need to wean him.<br>
Stop sending him stuff. If you stop he will find what he needs.
If you gave him a charge card, get it back or give him a gas card good only for gas if that is why he is supposed to have it.
Talk to him about this situation and don’t just send him an email…you are his mother, this should be something you can do.
When you do talk to him, set out expectations, and what his options are part time jobs or stafford loans, whatever. You can also set the same rules for the summer–you don’t pay for summer trips or school…he has to figure out that on his own…but he will need the money for the school year for his part.</p>
<p>Sometimes we have to MAKE our children grow up. Next summer if he wants to do something away from home…let him figure out a way to pay for it.
just say WOW, honey that sounds exciting.
Stop enabling… but continue to love…always. It will be hard but in the end he will grow up and accept responsibility. </p>
<p>Enlist his father to help in this…sometimes a boy needs a man to make him learn to be one.</p>