What is a deal breaker when picking a college?

Can I just say as a student… I’m from NY and really want to go south for college. My mom absolutely hates the idea but is warming up to it because she believes I can handle being so far away and it’s what a really want. Personally, I i felt restricted in choosing a college right now I’d probably be going crazy. For any reason besides money and safety i don’t see a reason why we shouldn’t be choosing our own school…