@LBad96 - I guess you can start a thread of deal breakers to marry you.
Wow- there is some narrow mindedness here. My kids had some deal-breakers for themselves, but for them, I did not. Wanted to keep the door open to allow them to choose (and the only ones that would have raised concern for me would NEVER have been on their radar, so that was a non issue).
They might be a bad fit for you, but maybe a good fit for your child.
I love it when the uninformed say so many things publicly. Depending upon your major, some of the top schools in the country are in the Great Plains. Part of what makes them great is keeping small-minded people away, I guess.
The SD School of Mines is one of the top schools in the country for mining engineering. Set in the beautiful Black Hills.
The reason you don’t see many of the other schools in the Great Plains on the list is that the cost of living is so low that they have lower professor salaries and spend less money on the school. That type of stuff is not adjusted for the micro-economy.
Georgia would be surprised to learn that it is not part of the Deep South…
I am personally happy that our Texas students can be armed. They can defend themselves and there will be fewer and less serious shootings. Anyone who is uncomfortable with that is welcome to not apply here. That just leaves more room for the local students. As for the professors, any of them who would leave for a political reason like that are not the type that should be teaching in a place of higher learning anyway.
For a friend, a deal breaker was the college that asked her husband to withdraw when he was a sophomore. She didn’t know why he was kicked out and didn’t want her daughter to find out if and when she got there.
@exitstageleft , guns are the main issue with “no Texas” colleges. And for my liberal kids, they would be uncomfortable on a very Republican campus. I think that excludes much of Texas, except Austin. Guns are the main problem though.
@LBad96 , you are making me smile. You said you wouldn’t want to marry anyone who isn’t an alma mater of your college, and that would wouldn’t let your kids attend a college you didn’t get into. Those words will come back to bite you, my friend. Boy, I can’t even begin to imagine who I would have married if I restricted myself to kids only from my college. I am going to go out on a limb and say meet us all back here in several years, because I am quite certain you won’t marry anyone you went to college with. As far as future kids not attending a college that rejected you, that defies logic. Trust me, when the time comes, you will want your kids to have whatever is best for them, and if that means a colleges that denied you, you might have to eat humble pie. Good luck with your predictions.
“…the poor kid is so tired of spending Friday nights on the front stoop whittling, just praying for an invite to a barn raising or a church social.”
Evanston is ground central for cow tipping. That’s another good Friday night activity in the Midwest. That plus watching the corn grow.
I fully admit that some of my opinions may change when I have a child.
However, I cannot imagine a scenario where paying for a religious school will ever be something I am ok with. I have a burning, passionate hatred of religious institutions due to personal experiences (but that I largely keep to myself because I’ve learned to bite my tongue about religion over the years) and I don’t think that will ever change. It hasn’t in well over a decade despite marrying into a highly religious family that still doesn’t consider us married because we didn’t get married by a religious official.
I was raised by parents who also had/have a deep dislike of religion despite (until very recently) believing in God themselves.
I don’t have anything against religious people but to me there is a difference.
Carry on.
@Lindagaf - you are missing a fabulous school- Rice, a spot of blue in a sea of red. Ruling out Tx would miss this fabulous gem of a school.
@Lindagaf I didn’t say that I’d only want my wife to come from my alma mater. It’s a preference. A valid preference, might I add.
Yes, my feelings may or may not change once I actually have children. But as of the present, this is where I stand.
@Torveaux the professors could also not want to be shot themselves for not raising a student’s grade at the end of the semester.
Lbad,
You just went through this process a year ago. Give it time. And open your mind. Besides, by the time you have kids going to college, they may be going to the possibly free 2 year schools first, as college may be ridiculously unaffordable by then! Or it may be largely on line by then. Who knows.
The students that would shoot a professor are not the ones who are going to legally carry, typically. They should be more worried without the ability to carry. Since shooting the professor is already illegal, why would someone willing to do that be concerned about whether it was legal to carry?
“…Montana…” Oh, THAT midwest .
Right now I’m visiting my other kid who attends U of Nebraska. 60 degrees, sunny, people outside playing tennis and soccer. Just had a great steak for lunch. Not a blacksmith or a pair of bib overalls in sight.
The gun issue isnt much of a concern in the Midwest. When shooting starts, we just duck behind our horse, grab our saddle rifle, and return fire until the cavalry arrives.
“Would you let your kid attend a school that turned YOU down?”
Hello??
Absolutely! Are you kidding??
So, for instance, you wouldnt let your future DD or DS go to Stanford 20 + years from now because they turned YOU down??
Talk about being short sighted!
Lbad,
Why so down on schools in upstate NY since you applied to one or more yourself?
I’m surprised by the emotional reaction by parents concerning their child’s college choices.
Eliminating entire swaths of geographies but parsing out other areas as “acceptable” is just plain odd to me. So North Carolina and Georgia are not the “Deep South” but what about South Carolina and Alabama? I also don’t understand how people can say no schools in the South but Duke/Vanderbilt/Tulane/Davidson are fine. Do students at these schools not know they are in the South?
I guess while I am of absolutely no religious background whatsoever, and I never saw myself at a religious school, I would never forbid my child from attending colleges with religious affiliations, probably because I probably wouldn’t even know if the college were affiliated or not. Kenyon College is affiliated with the Episcopal Church but I never knew that until last year. Muhlenberg is apparently affiliated with the Lutheran Church but I always thought of it as a school with a decent Jewish student population.
I’ve been wondering: I understand about not being allowed to say a word here any longer, but does that mean that we can’t recognize one and stop feeding it?
I lived in a vintage dorm with 20 or 30 kids in singles and doubles on the floor. The bathroom served the whole floor. The toilets and showers were behind partitions. They were designed with a little anteroom in front of the shower for changing or at least hanging a bathrobe. That’s what I am remembering. Later I lived in suites and we had our own bathrooms in the suite. We shared them with boyfriends too, but they had a lot more privacy.