<p>Drinking. My daughter is very intolerant of drinking. Her crowd at HS didn't drink and she just didn't want to be around people that considered it the norm to do so. While some people will say that people drink in the "real" world, they generally do not binge drink. She purposely chose a Christian college where drinking, drugs and immoral behavior are not tolerated. Fortunately, she's also getting a great education. </p>
<p>Isn't it a matter of priorities? There's all kinds of things that one would want in a college, I think it's just what's most important.</p>
I know we worry about such things, but is there really such a place? Certainly not in the two (?) I think your D has narrowed it down to.</p>
<p>Anyway, I think my point in the second part of the post you so nicely complimented is that our kids seem to have an instinct for this. So, as long as we are able to have them visit, I think maybe we can count on their gut, even if they can't express it. So it follows that we should not try to talk them out of their gut even if we think they are "overlooking" key criteria that we hold dear.</p>
<p>jmmom - Agreed on visiting. Agreed on the gut - all the way. And I just realized that the school I worry about sending my D to is the school I arrived at in 1974. I know it doesn't exist any more, but the images haunt me to this day. Academically - intoxicatingly perfect fit. Socially - you try showing up in patched blue jeans and a bandana, ratio of 5:1 boys to girls and 25% of those boys in kelly green pants and belts with needlepoint whales. Whew.</p>