<p>jerseymom - My younger D is a quiet, reserved young woman and when she was a sophomore, she had some roommate issues that began to have an effect on her whole BC experience. She did access services on campus, seeing someone on campus once a week for a semester. It really helped her. There was a follow-up at the start of her junior year, but at that time, she didn’t feel the need to continue her appointments. She feels that BC does a wonderful job helping students work thru problems they might be having and I am assuming that scottj has given you some good ideas as to where to get assistance for your son. She also attended several of the weekend off-campus activities - 48 hours comes to mind, and I know she did one or two other similiar activities, and really felt those helped her adjust to BC. She was a leader by her senior year and was a real advocate for those types of experiences.</p>
<p>My D also noted several times that the students who seem to have the most difficult time are the freshmen guys. Although there are many activities on campus to explore and participate in, the weekend social stuff seems to be the area that is the most difficult for the guys. They are often excluded from off campus gatherings, where it is easier for a girl to attend. I’m not sure if this is accurate - this just seemed to be her perception.</p>
<p>I was on campus yesterday for the football game. It was a beautiful fall day in New England. Unfortunately, the Eagles lost again, but the students appear happy and loving life. I hope your son will take the time to explore what BC has to offer and find his spot. These kids put so much pressure on themselves that I sometimes think they don’t give themselves enough time to work things out. I’ll keep my fingers crossed that he does. And if he doesn’t - so what. Help him find a school that works for him and transfer. Life is too short to stay somewhere you are not happy. No school works for everyone and if BC is not the right fit, this experience will help him find that school that is. Good luck!</p>