<p>Nothing wrong with people having sex in serious relationships.</p>
<p>But people who have hook ups are disgusting.</p>
<p>What’s an immature relationship like?</p>
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<p>If it helps at all, Wiscongene, all the people I know who do drugs/go to raves (most of my friends) don’t randomly hook up. A lot of them are in serious relationships, actually. And they’re very smart and kind. They’re also extremely nonjudgmental, which maybe some of CC could do with working towards.</p>
<p>It’s easy, guys. If you don’t want to hook up, don’t. If you don’t want to do drugs, don’t. If you don’t want to go to raves or party or drink or be friends with different races or whatever people were saying, DON’T. You won’t be going to a school where absolutely everyone does those things. All colleges are big places with lots of different kinds of people. It’s not all black and white like that.</p>
<p>It really depends on your group of friends. All of my good friends are not into hookups or casual anything at all, and some have serious relationships like me. But then I have a different group of friends from sports that are very casual about it even when they’re already in relationships :O</p>
<p>It doesn’t depend at all on your group of friends. It depends on you and what you do on weekends. If you go to huge parties and drink a bit too much you’re more likely to have a hookup. But if you’re about to have a hookup, you won’t think to yourself “wait a second, my friends don’t hookup. I better not either.”</p>
<p>It’s funny how the most judgmental people here are high school students. They haven’t even spent a single day in college, yet they’re so proud of their naive worldview.</p>
<p>What’s even more funny is if you fast forward to their first few weeks as a freshman. All the Moral Orels are suddenly singing a different tune once they discover that most of the studious, responsible people they meet also enjoy moderate alcohol consumption and consensual sex.</p>
<p>^Actually, I’ve experience those things and I find the culture that promotes them to be predominantly superficial. It wastes my time.</p>
<p>^Okay, then it’s not for you.</p>
<p>From my experiences, dating tends to much less common than hook-ups. At my school, dating is a lot less prevalent. People tend to form their own spheres and not break from them; and therefore, it’s much more difficult to get a meaningful conversation with a girl (assuming she even has some interest). I’m saying this from a guy’s perspective, but there are not many girls with the confidence (or willingness) to approach a guy anyway.</p>
<p>^ most women don’t approach guys in general…Ive only started conversations with like 2 guys I’ve never seen before but they were both seniors and I’m a junior.one was this month and the other a few months ago.It wasn’t as scary as I thought-talking to guys first but nothing happened.I guess I’m better at making guy friends with someone in my class. </p>
<p>I don’t think I will hit on a guy directly but id initiate a conversation by asking ‘what time it is’-it works most of the time.</p>
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<p>Wiscongene is really annoying</p>
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<p>Says the high schooler.</p>
<p>lol, not everyone becomes a sex-addicted fiend as soon as they enter college. liberal.</p>
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Wait, so if someone hooks up in college, they’re suddenly a “sex-addicted fiend”? That’s a little ridiculous.</p>
<p>Not sure what “liberal” is supposed to mean (that only liberals hook-up?), but I’d note that all of my closest friends in college are much much more politically conservative than I am, and they all hook-up more, whereas I like to go on dates first.</p>
<p>Honestly, if you don’t want to hook-up, then it’s wrong for you. But asserting that that makes it wrong for everyone is really unnecessary.</p>
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<p>Just because someone doesn’t enjoy the idea of hooking up doesn’t necessarily mean they’re in high school.</p>
<p>I’m pretty conservative, and I like getting poon as much as the next high schooler.</p>
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<p>There’s a big dichotomy on this site, between the supposedly hard-driving, academics-focused, Ivy-League-or-bust mentality and the happy-go-lucky, I-love-college, let’s-party-responsibly mentality with the (possibly correct?) assumption that the latter is more grown-up. As if ages 14-18 are just a gamut you have to run to “arrive” at the golden gates of your choice university and spend the next four years sanguinely delving into the desires of the flesh that you could not (for whatever reason) partake in during your HS career. </p>
<p>Whenever someone pops in to represent the in-between or I daresay, the “different”, they get shrugged with a “ok, whatever” for their approach to college life. This is rather disheartening from the perspective of someone who actually wants an environment where they will be learning and accomplishing things.</p>
<p>I’m not going to college to live out my dream of being the “cool kid” who raves or drinks or bangs that hot chick nor do I want any environment that even goes so far as to promote something like that. </p>
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<p>Wiscongene, I agree with you. Judging someone for only wanting a serious relationship is just as bad as judging someone for hooking up randomly. There are many, many different possible lifestyles, none of which you are obligated to participate in. Live and let live.</p>
<p>However, there were certain things about college that I believed before I actually got here. Some of those things were right. Some were wrong, and there are some things I don’t think a person can ever really know until they actually get to college. It’s perfectly acceptable to say that certain things are more prevalent in college, like hooking up, because we’ve been there. If people rarely get into relationships, they rarely get into relationships. (It’s also important to remember that nothing is even close to absolute and it completely depends upon the school. Furthermore, it’s usually a mix of hooking up and relationships with varying proportions of each, depending on the school and the age of the students, IMO.) However, adding a value judgment to that on either side of the issue isn’t necessary, accomplishes nothing, and just creates conflict.</p>
<p>I’m looking for a serious long-lasting relationship with a good looking girl who has a fantastic personality :)</p>
<p>Too bad im only a junior in HS though =/</p>
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