<p>well, what can i do? i asked other grad students, postdocs, and research scientists in the lab and they have done the same thing with regards to recs from my advisor. this guy can get me into grad school by himself (in fact, he already has…i don’t even have to submit an application to my home school for the phd degree). he asked me to write the basics and he’ll fill in the rest, so it’s not like it’ll be “in my style” or whatever. if i don’t do this, what’s the guarantee he’ll write the rec in totality? sure it may be unethical, but there’s probably a point at which you have to live with the fact that this kind of thing happens quite often, right?</p>