<p>So, I'm a freshman in High School, and I have NO friends :(. In middle school (well at least 7th grade), I was literally the coolest kid in the school... I was getting 8th grade girls talking to me, invited 2 8th grade parties, etc. As soon as 8th grade came along (I was taking HS courses), I knew that it started 2 matter so I worked really really really hard (like studied on my free time). in 8th grade, I was called a nerd, girls stopped talking to me, and even some guys were against me. </p>
<p>Now in high school, I walk the halls alone, eat lunch alone (try not to be seen, so usually in the bathroom), and people look at me funny. Like people are saying that I'm a lier (I made up a fib that everyone knew wasn't true, and now everyone is like against me and call me a compulsive lier). I have no friends. I'm sometimes funny, and athletic, and smart..</p>
<p>Can someone please help. I hate eating alone in the stall.</p>
<p>Don’t care about the others; in the big picture, everyone around you right now in high school probably won’t matter. Just study hard so you can get into a good college/job, with people you might be spending a very long time with.</p>
<p>Well, I just can’t stand it. I walk through the halls with people eyeing me funny, and I just hate lunch time cause I literally have nobody to hang with. Like, I do homework in the bathroom so nobody will see me. And I hate walking through the halls, cause everyone else is with a friend except me. I try so hard to look appealing, but it seems as if I’m invisible, yet being laughed at at the same time. :(</p>
<p>1) Make a comeback. ( I have no idea about this “fib” thing you’re talking about, but prove the world you’re not a liar; being quiet about this will get you nowhere, so make some huge comeback with a postive attitude, etc).
2) Transfer out of your high school. (Start fresh) You’re a freshman, do you really want to spend the next 3 years of your life like this?
3) Ignore what they say. Sure, ignorance is bliss, but having no friends in high school is just sad. </p>
<p>You could transfer and start over. You have a reputation as a loser/lier and that will possibly carry over for the rest of high school. It’s hard (and not often not worth it) to try and change others perception of you since everything basically sticks. </p>
<p>That’s the sad reality of high school. It may seem like you’re avoiding the problem instead of confronting it, but you really don’t want to spend four years of your life in the bathroom stall. </p>
<p>I’d say either:
Make friends. Find a group to hang out with. And DON’T spend your lunches/breaks studying and doing hw. I forgo some days when I have a huge test to cram for, but I spend 95% of my free time in school with my friends. And don’t make up lame excuses like “Sorry, I have so much hw so I can’t hang out with you guys :/”. This is how you lose friends. </p>
<p>2) Transfer to a different school</p>
<p>And chillll. You’re a freshman. Sure, it “matters” how well you do in high school, but look how miserable it’s made you.</p>
<p>i dont have it as bad as OP but i definitely know what he’s talking about. up until 9th grade i really enjoyed life. then i started sports/extracurriculars/honors and eventually AP classes. needless to say, i oftentimes find myself feeling friendless. well, that’s why i look forward to college and senior year. i’ll have a much better time being all chill and ****. OP, you need to find a balance between friends and school, something i never did because at one point i only cared about school, and that ended up biting me in the ass later on</p>
<p>This is what happens when you’re in High School. If you’re going to be an overachiever, barely anyone will care about you other than for their own judgement on who’s better than who.</p>
<p>BS. Absolute bull*****. Have you ever noticed how 95% of your parents/aunts’/uncles’/etc stories come from their high school and college years? These are formative times my friend. Just make an effort to be happier, more positive, and more outgoing. You’d be surprised how much difference seeming nice can make.</p>
<p>First of all, OP, I hope you’re serious here with this post… That said,</p>
<p>-Friends =/= popular, nor do either of those things = being a ******bag.
-The “high school stereotype” as portrayed in movies is blatantly false. Of course you’ll always have cliques and stuff, but that doesn’t mean that you’re necessarily unpopular or a “loser” simply by being in a certain clique. I’ll say it now, but the “Smart Asian” clique at my school has a pretty respectable reputation. So does the “band” clique, “Drama/Acting” Clique, etc. Everything depends on how you as an individual act.</p>
<p>As for advice, the OP is stuck in a hard place. Unfortunatley, you’ve grown a reputation that is going to be difficult to shake.</p>
<p>My advice, take with a grain of salt:
-Humble down… I feel like you may be sort of on the pretentious side. In your visitor messages, you talk of an “incredible resume”, but many people here on CC would not consider middle school awards incredible, especially if they are within-school awards. Remember, no one likes a braggart, and people will come to learn about your accomplishments by themselves if they care.
-Calm down… You seem a bit overanxious for college stuff. (based off my reading of your previous posts) Yes, it matters a lot, and this is CC, but you don’t need to worry about it 24/7. Rather, learn to enjoy High school, but also focus on your studies and your passions.
-Don’t talk so much about academics all the time to other people. Depending who your target audience is, change what you enjoy talking about to fit.
-Be positive, friendly, nice, etc. But, don’t overdo it and be overly annoying (especially since you’re trying to come back). If you feel the person(s) you are talking to are becoming annoyed, stop.
-As for the “Lying” reputation, start and try to combat that by helping others. People will eventually forget about it if you help them with homework, etc.</p>
<p>If all else fails, you could get a transfer…</p>