@1650mile I’d actually start by getting hard numbers on the money you will have available. Can your mother and father together come up with $5,000 per year? $10,000?
With strong stats it’s pretty easy to get $25k+ off at some good safety schools, but full rides where room & board are included are much, much rarer. It won’t do you much good to get $25k off of $65k if you can’t pay the rest. Look at the Colleges That Change Lives – they are a great bunch of schools of varying levels of competitiveness that do very well with both merit and need-based aid.
You can use net price calculators (and should!) but combine your parents’ incomes for most conservative results. This is not ideal, and if you’re really curious about a school you can contact the financial aid office and they’ll give you very accurate info, but it does give you a good picture.
Don’t be afraid that your father’s income ruins you for all schools. Lots of top schools do meet need, and you don’t have to have a negligible income to get money, but you do have to find the right school.
Look into the tuition exchange program specifically for your father’s university. Just as an example, here’s a blurb for how it works at Johns Hopkins (my sister works there so I’m vaguely familiar):
Keep asking questions, and congrats on starting this now rather than in your senior year!!!