<p>You mentioned on a thread that your daughter is counting the days until she leaves. I wonder why? You are hurting your daugher Dad II. I’m no psychologist, but women who grow up with a dad who always criticizes them may have trouble with romantic relationships-- they either put up with too much garbage from a partner who constantly criticizes them or they can’t commit. I realize it doesn’t always happen but when people tell you to be NICE to your children, it is not because your tactics may not get them that extra point or another extra $1,000. It’s because the extra point and the extra $1,000 are not worth the damage to your children-- or even to you when you open your eyes and regret it. I know you love your children. Step back. They are doing fine. Remember she is your <em>daughter</em> and part of your job is to help her realize how precious she is so she has good self-esteem and finds a suitable mate. Life isn’t all about money, degrees, tests scores… what is most important is relationships. Your relationship with your children is much more than about the two of you. It helps form them and they will take that into their future romantic relationships and their relationships with any future children. Get some counseling.</p>