I’ve been at college since August 25th now. My college is 5 hours away from home. I really like college and I haven’t been homesick since my family left which is the opposite of what I was expecting. My family is coming down to my college in 11 days for family weekend and then I was planning to go home for Thanksgiving break. My roommate is also from the same area as me, but is much more homesick than I am and wants to go home. She recently found someone who is driving to New Jersey this Friday and coming back on Sunday. This person is asking $20 for the ride and my roommate wants to know if I want to go with her. I kinda want to go home, but then I kinda don’t. I feel like family weekend won’t be a big deal if I go home the week before it and I’m also afraid to go back home. I’m afraid that everything will be different and that I will cry or something. Once if I don’t want to go back to college? I feel like I won’t get the chance to go back home before Thanksgiving again though. What should I do? Any advice?
If you’re going to see your family the weekend after, I wouldn’t go. Might be nice to enjoy the room to yourself for a weekend!
I don’t think there’s much point in going home now, considering your family is coming to visit so soon, and then you’ll be going home for Thanksgiving soon after. 10 hours round trip is a lot for just a weekend, and you’ll really only have one full day at home. I think it’d be a lot more fun to relax at school, and like bodangles said, it’s really nice to have the room to yourself! That’s not something you get all the time when you live in a dorm.
Go do something fun with your new friends and the $20.00 that you save.
I think you should ask yourself why you want to go home for the weekend. If it’s for your family, it might be best to just wait for Family Weekend, but if you want to visit a high school friend or a pet, then it could be a nice idea to travel back to your hometown.
I would stay at college. This is the time where you need to be strengthening your ties/friends at college. You will be seeing your family the next week.
Tell your roommate “Thanks for the offer, but I am going to stay here this weekend. Don’t hesitate to ask again in the future, though.”
I think you can take the time missing your family for a while, save that $20 dollar since you have the family weekend ahead. I feel like your family will be proud of you for having the guts to stay in your place though you miss them dearly. It’s the start of being independent!