What should we do if we are rejected?

<p>How would you deal with rejection? Any tips? I'm just worried...</p>

<p>Expect rejection, and just be grateful/surprised/happy if you get accepted.</p>

<p>Two words: ice cream.</p>

<p>apply to UNC, I hear they accept anyone these days ;)</p>

<p>music, sleep and movies.
i’m fully expecting a rejection.</p>

<p>First rule of rejection: Avoid discussing that you ever applied there. ;)</p>

<p>Yeah, I got rejected for Stanford (Yesterday). I was pretty disappointed, but I’m getting over it now. However, I realized there must be something better for me out there, and it’s Stanford’s loss not mine. The man upstairs has a plan for me but I just don’t know where that plan leads yet.</p>

<p>Well my mindset is to assume that I’m already rejected. That way, I won’t get sad if I actually do get rejected and I’ll go beyond crazy if a miracle somehow happens.</p>

<p>Hey, StanfordCS, I’m glad you’re keeping your head up. That’s the way to go.</p>

<p>StanfordCS: I hope I can have the same mindset as you if I am rejected/deferred. Teach me?</p>

<p>@ NerdyAsianKid
my thoughts exactly. It’s the pessimist-self-protection from getting butthurt if we’re rejected.</p>

<p>One of the things to keep in mind is that one of the reasons why applicants are rejected is because the school does not believe they are a good match for you. It’s like your passion is ballet and you are applying to a tech school. The school recognizes they aren’t likely to be a school that you will be happy/thrive at.</p>

<p>Lots of kids apply to schools because of a number of reasons that really have nothing to do with fit. The schools know that. You should thank them for rejecting you, so that you don’t have to agonize over them in making the decision of which school to attend :-)</p>

<p>As much as I’d like to keep positive no matter what, I can’t help but feel somewhat devastated when I think about rejection. I am not going to lie and say that knowing there’s a silver lining, even after rejection, will bring much solace, should I hear bad news on Wednesday.</p>

<p>However, I think as with many pains, hindsight will portray it as a smaller and smaller issue. I’m going to try my best to keep moving forward, as hard as it may be. There’s not really another choice, realistically, haha. </p>

<p>Still, I don’t want to wallow in despair before decisions come out. Fingers crossed and chin up! Most of us are truly qualified applicants.</p>

<p>This is a problem that is quite personal to The Blue Devil. I was once in your shoes, and I know it is difficult. The Blue Devil, believe it or not, did not have Duke as his/her “first choice” when (s)he applied. It was a difficult, cold, hard application process, culminating in an equally difficult rejection-filled conclusion. Nevertheless, I was accepted to Duke, a school that I originally had no particular attachment to. Then something amazing happened; I became Duke, and then I became The Blue Devil. I’ve never been so happy in my life. </p>

<p>By applying early, you have all shown some common denominators: drive, passion, intelligence, and an ability to “put yourself out there”. Duke doesn’t reject people: we apologize for not taking you. We want you in the school–I want you in the school–but we simply cannot accommodate all of you. Believe in yourself and believe in everything you have done up until this point that makes you the incredible person that you are. THIS is what matters.</p>

<p>Ultimately, the decision is important, but the acceptance/rejection will only live with you for so long. How long exactly? The answer: Until move-in day at whatever university you attend. Once at Duke, you have to understand that EVERYONE there was accepted. If not at Duke, you have to understand that NO ONE at that college is attending Duke. What matters is what you make with your time at whatever school you are attending. By applying to Duke, it is clear that you are at an elite level. You have demonstrated a propensity to succeed and to engage yourself in interesting, awe-inspiring endeavors. This is the important part, and what is even more important, is to continue succeeding and pioneering at the university-level, whether it be at Duke or not. </p>

<p>Believe in yourself, and you will find that you are never “rejected”.</p>

<p>TheBlueDevil sounds like The Rock on Monday Night Raw, lol.</p>

<p>I got rejected from Cornell, but I was fine.
I still think about it from time to time (haha, although it’s only been 3 days…), but I don’t feel dejected at all. I knew that decisions were already out, so I talked to myself for the 15 minutes I got home. Basically, what I said was that Cornell is too cold for me anyway, and that I would get no more acceptance letters if I get in ED, so it’s better to get rejected, so when I got the official rejection, I was actually pretty glad. But of course, it was my first choice, there’s always a little bit of disappointment. </p>

<p>It’s no big deal if you get in, because there is always somewhere better for you! Nevertheless, I wish you good luck!!</p>

<p>What do you do if you’re rejected? Easy.</p>

<p>Dust your shoulders off, take a few deep breaths and maybe a walk with your dog, realize that life goes on and you’ll be fine. Play a few guitar chords and watch the sun set. Wake up the next day and find it waiting for you just like always. </p>

<p>At least, that’s what I did when Stanford didn’t work out. But I was already a Blue Devil by then!</p>

<p>cry for a little while then say f*** it that’s my motto I don’t allow myself to get too upset about things</p>

<p>As someone who was rejected from other schools, I would say just try to realize that once you click that button to send your application, you really have no control over the process so there’s no point trying to rationalize a procedure that is generally irrational.</p>

<p>The easiest solution: just don’t think about it. It’s really just that simple.</p>