<p>Well last night I got invited to a party with this guy, but my parents wouldn't let me go. So I understand whatever let it go. Even though I was mad.</p>
<p>Well at dinner they told me they'd rather me hang out with guys during the day instead of at night. And that is not fair!! I went out with this guy A, twice at night, and I came home by my curfew and everything. Nothing happened. I've done nothing to lose my parents trust and they even said so themselves. Soo now next weekend I wanna hang out with this guy T, but I mean, how do I convince them to let me go?? They let me hang out with him yesterday during the day, but we only got to hang out for an hour bc then I had to go to a party with my parents. HELP! (oh and the guy drives)</p>
<p>You're haning out with many different guys? Hmmm...maybe your parents are concerned about that. You could let your parents meet each guy that your going to hang out with and make them feel at ease about the safety of being with each guy. Or you could just sneak out of the house.</p>
<p>I'm only hanging out with ONE guy, and they already did meet him. And they didn't think he was bad or anything. I don't know, maybe it will blow over and they were just mad at me for being mad at them last night.</p>
<p>If it really is a problem for your parents then yeah they should meet the guys you go out or just hang out with to make them at ease. If you do that and nothing bad ever really happens then I think their insecurity about it will blow over.</p>
<p>I have a 17 yo D so I know what they are worrying about. Driving, drinking, drug, and sex. Going to a party rather than a movie poses more threats to you. Crazy as it sounds to you your parents think someone could slip you drugs (date rape drugs being top on the list of parents' fears) and attending a party increases the risk of drinking and DUI. I suggest sitting them down for a heart-to-heart talk and to come up with a plan for you to spend evenings away from them while ensuring your safety. Maybe they want to have the guy over to your house for an evening or two before they put your life in his hands and his car. Their #1 job since your birth has been your welfare, health, and safety and now you want to leave their protective arms for the arm of a strange boy who, in your parent's minds, is after one thing. Getting you drunk, etc. increases his chances of success and puts you in danger of life and limb, pregnancy and STDs.</p>
<p>If I sound like a crazy person to you, you have just had a glimpse into the mind of a caring, obsessive parent. Communication is the key. Talk to your parents in a calm, rational manner and ask them to trust you.</p>
<p>Okay, so here's the 17 year old guy's view...</p>
<p>Yeah, so, I'm Ty...I'm a pretty trustable guy. My parents let me stay out late and I party and do all that stuff (my grades don't suffer...I'm going to Caltech in the fall lol) and lots of times I like to take friends (guys or girls) with me to do stuff. Usually we'll go see a movie or bowl or just hang out, but sometimes we go to parties where, I won't lie, there is alcohol and other <em>such</em> substances. In the beginning of the year, I met this really nice foreign exchange student from Germany (talk about not really knowing me) and so I was like, "hey it'd be cool if we could do something sometime." so i asked her if she wanted to go to "the river"-our local hangout spot- and she said she'd like to. her host parents were VERY concerned and wanted me to come over to meet them...to make sure i wasn't some molester or something. i talked to them and they seemed to like me so they said okay and we had a really good time. everything in moderation and when your parents say you need to be back by 2am, be back a little early and show them that you respect their rules if they're set justly. i get along really well with my parents and haven't caused them any reason to suspect my behavior because i really don't do anything bad. i think that sometimes parents are overly cautious...that's part of their job...but i think you should let your parents meet the guys and give the guys an opportunity to prove to your parents that they're well-intentioned.</p>
<p>2 a.m.!!!!????? Wow. My D's boarding school sets a midnight curfew for 11th and 12th graders and 11 p.m. for underclassmen. This is only on weekend nights. Rest of the week and Sunday it's 10 p.m.</p>
<p>Hey, at least it's not as bad as in Europe. I have some Danish friends and they come home at 5 am sometimes...or sometimes just don't come home at all. lol, they're pretty wild.</p>
<p>My suggestion, invite him over to chill a few nights and just hangout and watch movies. Get your parents used to him, and maybe they'll ease up on you.</p>
<p>biomath2-
I know what you mean about 5 a.m. My D's Spanish friends are out all night! She assured me she wasn't during her visit last summer. I choose to believe her :)</p>