<p>Thank you for being honest OP. Now for whoever told me that my assessment was "unfair," you deserve a huge "I TOLD YA SO!" smack in the face. </p>
<p>Face it, very few guys-- actually, no guy-- would go to this length to worry about some girl they're just FRIENDS with, let alone post it on a website called collegeconfidential.com, which would have taken him a whole quarter of an hour, not counting how much he thinks about her problem 24/7. As soon as you hear some guy "worrying" about a "female friend," you know the dude's all in for to get into her pants.</p>
<p>That can't be true of all guys...I mean, I know that pretty much every one of my guy friends in high school had a thing for me at some point, but that's not true every time...is it?</p>
<p>I'm actually not worrying about her to get into her pants. I did have a thing for her at one point, but I'm not the kid of person who wants only that.</p>
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<p>WHAT? -__-</p>
<p>Anyway... the fact that he likes her is not the point. This is about friends looking out for each other.</p>
<p>I've never had close friends with people who drink regularly and those type of people kinda turn me off since I had grown up with an alcoholic mother.. ^^; I tend to be more judgemental about this topic... but I do agree you should be at least honest about your feelings. If she regards you as a friend at all she should be interested in what you have to say. :) Hopefully she'll take you to heart and smarten up a little. good luck.</p>
<p>kathos11-- To answer your question, yes, it is. It is safe to declare that all those guys during all that time was imagining having intercourse with you while they chatted with you, helped you with homework, hung out together, flirted. Congrats on being an attractive gal, though.</p>
<p>OK so according to my friends who were with her that night she hooked up, the guy who she hooked up with was another of my good friends. Both of them were very drunk, so I doubt they realize what happened. She hadn't mentioned about the hooking up part, just about drunkenness and dancing and fun, so she doesn't know I know that she and my friend hooked up, and neither does he. This is all becoming very confusing, and now I don't know what to do! She still doesn't know that I have/had feelings for her, and I'm afraid that telling her would absolutely kill off our friendship, or what is remaining of it b/c of her recent choices.</p>
<p>um...Let her drunkenly hook up with whoever she wants. That's her problem. I highly doubt they both don't know what happened. Maybe they just didn't feel like telling you all about it?</p>
<p>Maybe you should get off this chick's balls. You're annoying and clingy.</p>
<p>Aw, if he likes her, no wonder he's all upset. But um, your anger should be focused more on yourself for not telling her how you feel about her. Obviously she will hook up with whoever she wants...you aren't her boyfriend ;). If you tell her and it detroys your friendship, it won't be because of her "recent choices". It'll be because she doesn't like you, and for some reason you or her (but the way it seems most likely you) will make it awkward.</p>
<p>I'll admit that it made me giggle a little at first...but then I remembered how not interested I was in any of my guy friends in high school and got a little sick to my stomach.</p>
<p>Yeah, I suppose frenchdude is right. I must reveal to all of you that I am concerned primarily because I had to go to the hospital myself because of my own drinking problems. Both of my friends now know that I know about their hookup. It's just sad that it was my boy-crush and my girl-crush, but at the same time I would rather have it be that boy than any other who hooked up with her. </p>
<p>I am now after a new girl and have had my talk with the other girl. The girl has stopped drinking as much and I have found that it was my own incredible stupidity to be concerned about her in the first place. I will now take my chances with this new girl and hopefully won't hesitate as much to tell her my feelings.</p>
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<p>Haven't you learned anything at all from this experience with the drunken girl? Must you have a "girl" in your life at all times, FordGT? You're only asking for more trouble and heartache if you continue along this path.</p>