<p>I have been in college now for about two months and have had some trouble meeting people. I am one of those kids who is kind of awkward around kids I don't know well but then get to be funny/outgoing after I get to know someone. As a result, I have had some trouble making friends right away in college and have been a little depressed over the last two months. </p>
<p>However, I take quite a few classes with this one girl, and we started talking quite a bit. She has been having a similar experience that I have had. We both don't exactly have large social groups (though, I think she has a couple friends where as I don't really have many other people). We also both think almost the same way about life and people in general. So we have hit it off fairly well. We study together a bit but seldom get much done. She also has asked me who I am attracted to from our classes (which are all very small). I don't know I guess the moral of the story here is we joke around alot and are feeling the same way about stuff right now. </p>
<p>I don't know if I should try to pursue this relationship any further. She has been giving me mixed signals at times (sometimes she doesnt want to hang out because we aren't very productive), and I don't want to lose her as a friend. Plus, because we are in the same classes, it could get awkward there fast. So, what would you do in this situation?</p>
<p>If I was attracted to her and she asked me that question. I would probably have been like “well there’s this one girl that I find cute… and I study with her a lot” or something like that so she would get the hint. </p>
<p>As far as banging girls in your classes, it’s not weird unless you make it. </p>
<p>Next time flirt with her when you are alone together ( some physical contact).</p>
<p>I don’t want to be the pessimist here, but as a girl I can you tell you that a lot of the time when guys think we’re giving “mixed signals” it just means we’re not interested in that kind of relationship. She probably doesn’t want to go beyond friendship, but if you really like her then it’s worth spending more time with her to see if you have a chance anyway. If she likes you, then it’ll become clearer the more you hang out. </p>
<p>Also, compliments work charms. Her response to them will tell you quite a bit.</p>
<p>Really? I think she may just be begging for you to make a move, “who do you find attractive in our class” seems like the biggest hint ever. Ask her to hang out and do something other than school work, then you don’t have to be productive. As for compliments, you could throw one in there but keep em minimal.</p>
<p>make sure they are backhanded compliments though. like “nice shoes. i’ve seen 3 other girls with the same pair.” or “you remind me of my dog. he’s great.”</p>
<p>^I’m pretty sure that would make him seem more awkward, not less so.</p>
<p>I would go easy - don’t try to move too fast, or she might feel awkward. But if you have as much in common as it seems, and she’s dropping hints like that, I would say keep hope and see how it develops. Don’t worry about what she says about not studying together - perhaps that’s a good sign because you have so much in common that you can’t focus on other things when you’re together. Enjoy the time you spend together, and if you really feel that the time is right, then you should make a move - however minor.</p>
<p>mitssu’s first suggestion is decent but if I was a chick and some guy flirting with me compared me to a bloody dog (not that I don’t love dogs), I’d tell him to **** off</p>
<p>ibanking101, DO NOT MAKE A MOVE ON THIS GIRL!</p>
<p>You said that you are having trouble making friends, and that you have few other friends. Are you really willing to sacrifice one of your best friends if you are wrong and this doesn’t work out? If you had a big group of friends already in place, I would say go for it, because you having little to loose. But she sounds like your best friend right now.</p>
<p>If I were you I would just be friends with her, forget about moving past that. Try to make friends with her friends and develop a friends group. If she throws herself at you, then you can make the call at that point, but I wouldn’t risk it right now. Who knows, she may have some hot friends that you’ll end up liking more.</p>
<p>Big thing there. I would have asked her her question right back. I don’t know the exact phrasing of her question of course, but a reply like “Yeah, there is someone I like in my classes. What about you?” could have led to more information from her as to why she even asked you this question.</p>