<p>It's 1:30 A.M. where I am and I cannot sleep because my mind is awake thinking of college. Attending Vanderbilt has been my dream for years and soon I'll find out my fate.
I've been preparing for the day when I will open the rejection letter but I honestly have no idea what I will do when I read it.
How do you all suggest coping with such a thing? Just thinking about getting rejected makes my stomach twist and turn, I feel like I'll be stuck in my bed for days if I get rejected. (sounds dramatic I know but I honestly cannot imagine what I will actually do)
thoughts?</p>
<p>You will get in, trust me. :)</p>
<p>Thought you needed a little reassuring.</p>
<p>haha thanks I appreciate that :)</p>
<p>A friend has told me not to count on getting in university, to plan the future thinking I won’t get in my top choices and will resort to the safeties. Thinking this way makes me ready for the rejection, happy to attend the safety and ruin whatever chance I have left of pursuing my intended career… not a very good mindset, but just something that popped up to my mind xD But in the case that I do get in of course I will be overjoyed :D!!!</p>
<p>It’s 4:10 where I am and I’m unsure why I can’t sleep but anyway, I know right now you feel that if you don’t get into Vandy your life will be over. But try to think of the other schools to which you applied/will apply and why you applied there/why you like them. Get excited about other schools, too, so whether you get into Vandy or not (and don’t give up!!!) you won’t be completely crushed. Also, maybe plan something nice for the day you find out–perhaps a massage or going out to dinner or a movie–to either celebrate (if it’s good news) or take your mind off of it (if it’s not). Good luck!</p>
<p>Seriously, you need to claw and grasp some maturity. If you think a college that you might attend is the solution to your life’s issues, you’re going to be sadly disappointed.</p>
<p>Freaking one percent of the world’s population ever even sees the inside of a college classroom. Climb out of your pity pot and get into the real world. Go to your local food pantry or soup kitchen this week. I’ll be you find people who aren’t worrying about whether VBuilt accepts them or not.</p>
<p>Aimeenard is allowed to be nervous! Natural to feel this way!!!</p>
<p>My apologies for being unduly harsh. But OP is about to leave home and be an adult. She should try to imagine what that all entails. It’ll only serve her well.</p>
<p>aimeenard, it’s normal to feel anxious. However, the differences between good colleges are exaggerated, in my opinion (having attended and taught at several, from Ivies to state flagships to LACs). It serves the interests of the schools to “diversify their brands” and to pretend that each one is completely unique. Possibly they are, but they are more alike than different, and there are many, many good places to get a university education. If Vanderbilt doesn’t want you, another fine school will.</p>
<p>aimeenard, </p>
<p>This isn’t entirely your own fault, because somewhere along the line the adults in your life neglected to teach you that the first rule of the college admissions process is “Don’t Fall in Love with Any One College/University.” and that the second rule is, “If You Must Love Anything, Love Your Safety”. That said, you need to try to step back from your situation, and ask yourself why on earth you let yourself fall so blindly in love with ONE institution of higher education that if you aren’t admitted, you will feel your life will be ruined. Would you feel this way about a boy/girl/job/pet/house/car/breakfast cereal?</p>
<p>Think about it a bit. Every year here at CC there are students who don’t get into or can’t afford their dream schools. Six months later, almost all of them are perfectly happy where ever it is that they end up studying. Chances are, you will be too.</p>
<p>Wishing you all the best.</p>
<p>aimeenard,</p>
<p>80% of the applicants to Vandy aren’t offered admission.</p>
<p>Now, part of being an adult is realizing the odds of various choices you will have to make in life. As several posters above mentioned, focus your attention on the Safety and Match schools, and learn to be OK with the fact that Vandy is a reach for most applicants, not just you.</p>
<p>If you set yourself up to be “crushed” every time a 20% chance opportunity comes up in your life, you’re going to spend a LOT of time being “stuck in bed for days” 80% of the time. These opportunities could be landing a particular “dream job”, being asked out by someone you have a crush (pun intented) on, getting a job promotion, getting pregnant when the fertility specialist says it’s 20% odds, losing a low-ball bid on your “dream house”, etc. etc.</p>
<p>The botton line is that long odds “dreams” don’t need to crush a person if viewed in perspective. Understand that OTHER DREAMS will come to fruition in place of the one that doesn’t. For every door that closes, another opens.</p>
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<p>Oh my gosh yes! I really think everyone needs to go into this whole process expecting the worst. I don’t even like to go on the websites of my reaches; I push them out of my mind whenever I start to think about how amazing they’d be. On the other hand, I know my safeties in and out and now I’d be THRILLED to end up at any of them. It’d be even better to get into a reach, but by distancing myself from them, I don’t think the blow will be so harsh.</p>
<p>I have friends who are so set on their dream school, and I don’t know what I’m going to say to them if/when they don’t get in! It’s like they’ve poured 95% of their interest level into that one school. It’s no use to say “Ohhh, well, there’s always [equally amazing school]” because they haven’t even looked into the other places they’re applying. Aimeenard, I hope you get in of course but please don’t feel like your life will be over if you don’t; it’s not like everybody else is miserable at all the other schools in the world, you’ll have an AMAZING time wherever you go.</p>
<p>Nothing is ever as good or as bad as it first seems.</p>
<p>Go back and look at previous years posts. There are many many people who did not get into their #1 choice, yet a year later they are probably happy where they ended up. I think some kids will be happy at most schools, and some kids will unhappy at most schools. </p>
<p>Other than that, I pretty much agree with the postings above - you need some perspective here.</p>
<p>Okay, I always want to go to USC since the 6th grade however, life happens and I messed up my chances of getting in and I didn’t even apply to USC knowing it would be a waste. Every time I think about USC, I get mad and sad about myself messing up probably like some kids who got rejected or harmed their chances of getting into a dream college. However I remind myself that I got accepted to the University of Pittsburgh recently and my dream of being a great person isn’t over. Although I’m a senior like you I love Pittsburgh a lot it’s one of my top 3 choices so I’m happy that I can choose to go a great university. USC was a dream but Pittsburgh can also be my dream too if I go there. Also make your choose universities that you can see yourself living at not just one. Remember you can still transfer to Vandy too!(I’m considering transferring to USC for my junior and senior year or getting my masters there so I haven’t given up on going to USC just yet but for now I’ll be so happy at Pitt)</p>
<p>woah woah woah, i didn’t think people were going to get worked up over this. I just wanted to know if you all thought of a good way to cope with it.
quomodo gave me a really good idea about booking a massage or something fun for myself that day or something. That is all I wanted. I know the rule about “not falling in love with one college” i got it. It just happened. I couldn’t help it. I didn’t visit saying “I want to love this school” I just did. I explained my dream school to my counselor before even hearing the word Vanderbilt and Vandy matches that description perfectly. I really don’t appreciate the criticism seeing as I was just asking for advice.</p>