<p>My mother has neither physical nor legal custody of me (so I guess that just means that my dad has sole custody), and I haven't stayed in her house or gotten any sort of financial help from her for three years. For the CSS profile, I'm trying to get the NCP part waived, since she has no custody over me whatsoever and is estranged. When I emailed Wesleyan about this, the person who emailed back said that "if you have special circumstances please submit a letter explaining your situation and the financial committee will review it and get back to you." </p>
<p>How detailed should I be? Like the situation is pretty simple, so I don't really know what to write besides "my mother has neither physical nor legal custody of me, and I haven't stayed in her house or gotten any sort of financial help from her for three years. She is estranged." </p>
<p>Also, how do I write this letter? Like do I need a heading? Would I address it as "to whom it may concern"? </p>
<p>Thanks for your help!</p>
<p>DOes your mother pay child support?</p>
<p>Does your mom has visitation ?</p>
<p>Do you know where your mom lives? If so, it is not probable that you can get a noncustodial waiver unless she is not permitted to see you for some legal reason.</p>
<p>The college is looking for the reason you have no contact with your parent. You need to provide documentation for this. If it is a parent choice…you may not be eligible for a non-custodial parent waiver.</p>
<p>There is a NCP waiver your high school counselor has and can submit. What is often stated in this, is that your NCP has had no contact with you or the school and has not been in the picture at all for the years you’lve been there. That often carries a lot of weight if there is no court order in place to keep your parent aways or if they have abandoned you and you have no idea where that parent is, even after making efforts to locate this parent.</p>
<p>That your mother has neither physical nor legal custody is not relevant for the waiver. A lot of NCP don’t, but they are still in their kids’ lives. They have visitiation, they pay chld support, they go to functions for their kids, they are listed in the school records for another contact and/or get copies of notices and reports, they stay in touch If any of those things are the case, the chances of a NCP waiver are very small.</p>
<p>Questions you should answer in your waiver request:</p>
<p>(1) How often do you see your mom? When did you last see her?
(2) How often do you speak, text, email or otherwise communicate with your mom? When was the last time you did so?
(3) Do you or your dad know your mom’s current whereabouts?</p>
<p>Also, you say that things have been this way for the past three years. I’d also suggest that you explain what happened three years ago that changed things, and also explain how things were prior to that time. (Did she live with you? Did she pay support? Did you have regular contact with her?)</p>
<p>You don’t have to do this by yourself, you know. Your dad can provide a statement explaining the situation, if that would help, as can your guidance counselor (as noted above). Just because Wesleyan asked you to submit the request doesn’t mean you can’t have help.</p>