<p>"The whole so someone could take care of you thing frankly if I am so old that I need someone to take care of me then please give me a gun and a bullet because I am done for."</p>
<p>haha i second that.</p>
<p>some of the things i'm hearing here are really cold. i'd like to think that having kids doesn't rip relationships apart. and i think it's worth it to go through childbirth to have a child of your own that you love. no, havings kids isnt for everyone but gosh some of you make it sound like it's the worst thing ever to happen to a person and most parents would absolutely disagree. it's obviously something you dont understand until you have kids.</p>
<p>i agree GreenDayFan. i really want kids, but i also want to have a high powered career. somehow i'll juggle both while spending tons of quality time with my kids. it will obviously be hard, but i will make it work.</p>
<p>I really really do NOT want kids. I'd be a terrible parent.</p>
<p>yeah, i want to juggle having kids AND my career.</p>
<p>I agree with hoke. I plan on adopting at some point, but I also want a baby with my husband.</p>
<p>Also...how many of you have much-younger siblings. I remember when my baby sister was born (I was almost 10), and it was the best feeling in the world. Kinda like...whatever, it's hard to describe. But, anyway, if I could love a sister that much, and her being there could make me that happy, what would it be like for the kid to be mine?</p>
<p>Of course, I love kids. They love me. I'm Mary freaking Poppins.</p>
<p>I used to love kids until my brother was born...seriously, it's not that I hate him-I actually love him to death (he's almost 5), but actually LIVING with a toddler is MUCH different than babysitting one for an hour or something...</p>
<p>I want kids so I can force them to either be pro-tennis players,doctors,or lawyers. ;)</p>
<p>My mom says I'm selfish 'cause I don't want kids. I told her maybe I'd adopt, but there was absolutely no way I'd ever have a baby for myself. (I might surrogate for friends.) She didn't like that idea either. I don't know about you, but I think it's incredibly selfish to only want chilren that's genetically "yours" when there are so many orphans out in the world.</p>
<p>Besides, I'm going to be a doctor and I'd like to spend my free time on research. I'd never have the time, energy, or patience to deal with children.</p>
<p>You all need to hear the lecture about net tax payers & net tax users. There are tons of people out there who are breeding indiscriminately; they are tax users and likely always will be. All you above average, intelligent, good citizens need to make some more tax payers. lol</p>
<p>Well, I like kids. I want to have kids because of the experience. Y'know, kid goes to school for the first time...it makes you feel good. Unless your kid turns out to be a rotten apple, it gives you a sence of acomplishment when you see your grandkids at the age of 75. That you didn't live just to eat and make money. It's kinda phycological, but then again, sex, love, being drunk, and even seeing (interpreting what you are seeing) are phycological also.</p>
<p>That, and the fact that I like kids. I can just imagine playing Saints Row with my 4 year old son capping some b!tche$...</p>
<p>i think kids are so funny, and after a while of being married they create a family instead of just a couple. if they end up spoiled brats its your own fault</p>
<p>go on!!! dont have kids!! the earth is getting too populated, and i'd feel sorry for a kid whose parent doesnt see the point of having kids. seriously, i'm not saying this out of spite. it's all right if you dont have kids. kids arent for everyone.</p>
<p>I'm not having kids until after I turn 30, and even then I'm adopting kids. I can't afford to have kids until I have a not so volatile career....as a future investment banker, my job is going to be as secure as Enron's stock until I either move up and become a vice president (or managing director) or quit and become a venture capitalist. And I have absolutely no patience.</p>
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<p>Amen!</p>
<p>Question: Who else thinks that the "matching race" adoption practice is retarded? (Basically, an adult whose race matches the child's has a better chance of adopting him/her than an adult of a different race.)</p>
<p>prethumous, that rule may be in place for the sake of the child. my friend (who is chinese) has a chinese boyfriend. her boyfriend was adopted so he has white parents. for him, it's always awkward to go to chinese social events because he's not very knowledgeable about the culture.</p>
<p>the same goes for other races. biracial kids generally have a harder time trying to figure out which race to identify with. now, can you imagine being of one race, but growing up with another. that must be even worse than what a biracial child experiences. i mean, so many cultural differences exist. and at least a biracial child has the chance to experience both cultures (assuming they live with both parents). but an adopted Indian child with white parents cannot get nearly the same experiences or customs that Indian children with Indian parents get.</p>
<p>i'm not advocating this "matching race" thing. i'm just trying to explain the rationale behind it.</p>
<p>I am adopted and my father is African American and my mother Chinese me Caucasian. I was older though so maybe that's why.</p>
<p>My dad always told me he never wanted kids when he was younger... he has 3. Most of us on the board are 14-23ish and at this age we can't comprehend having kids(this includes me). However I believe this opinion will change as we grow older. The U.S./European population(excluding immigrants) is declining and in order to even break even is for the average family to have two kid. I have been to Europe many times and their is a huge non-European population(which is not a bad thing) and 65+ out number children at least 3 or 4 to 1</p>
<p>I think the rationale behind the "matching race" thing is stupid. If your black,white, asian or what ever if you grow up in America you will act like an American not like an Indian if your parents are from India or a Chinese if your parents are from China.</p>
<p>This might sound mean, but does anyone think it's really weird that people with low incomes have like, lots of kids, and rich people only have like, 1 or 2? (I mean the average, not like, the trailer park mom with just one kid, or the multi million rapper with 7) I know that poorer people = less schooling= no way to know about contraception/protection, but still, who can't read a condom box or go to the free clinic? Come on! I'm sorry, but it makes me angry that all these people go around having babies who have done nothing to be born to abusive mothers, or grow up HIV positive, or in foster care. I wish people would think about something besides themselves sometimes!!!!</p>