Poor kids don’t have the ‘parental-choice-school’ default u have. So don’t feel so sorry for yourself.
If u want to decouple your school decision from your parents, then seek paths that enable u to fund the school yourself. If u have high stats, then look to schools that award generous merit money. Merit money is independent of family income.
There are also the service academies (Naval Academy, West Point, Air Force Academy, Coast Guard Academy, Merchant Marine Academy).
There’s also active military service, followed by college funded via the GI Bill. I have a number of relatives spanning 2 generations that took this route.