I don’t feel like this is a quiz to “win”. No matter your upbringing and opportunities easier or not easier placed before you, it’s more about celebrating the posed obstacles you were able to overcome and where you landed - at 30, 40, etc. If you didn’t have obstacles, well, that’s nice and all, but it isn’t a measure of obstacle success…because you didn’t have to apply the life skills to get past the obstacles.
I find it odd that H and I both had 70 with different answers and different circumstances. We both were raised in rural 20,000 population towns. H in the south and I in the northeast. I think that is why we get each other.
When I was little I thought my upbringing was normal, what everyone else had. It’s not until very much later that I realized how much different and easier it could have been in a different circumstances. Honestly, this score makes me sad for my younger self, and proud for my older self.
We moved every two years (military family, five kids on a junior officer’s salary), which was rough. No experience of having a stable community of friends as I was growing up. Money was very tight, always. My dad didn’t get a college degree til my sophomore year of HS. We kids didn’t really get the benefits of that – my parents had no clue how college admissions and FA worked. I was a zero EFC kid and worked my way through the state flagship. I left for college at 18 and never lived at home again.
I was born less than a week before the next decade bracket. I definitely relate more to that than the one this quiz put me into.
I just took it again and got 56. That seems more accurate. My family life was the classic 2 parent family in a little 3 bedroom brick ranch house my parents had built in the 50s. Didn’t have the white picket fence but otherwise it was a very close to the post war American Dream. Very “Happy Days” or “Leave It To Beaver” with a little “Mayberry” thrown in.
My score was 60, which makes sense. My folks, married for 48 years, were working class but always provided for my brother and me. They were immigrants and one thing that was important to them was education. Both always pushed us to do well in school and go to college. They certainly didn’t have connections.
Yes, my family was definitely underprivileged (literally starting with a bar of soap as their entire assets, none had the opportunity to finish or even attend high school) - but worked hard, lived frugal, saved obsessively, labored their way into “low middle class”, instilled their values in their kids, and avoided all the usual drama (couldn’t afford it.)
So based on that, my “dream” score was calculated as very low for lack of drama.