When everyone is out partying, I would rather be doing something productive

<p>I go to a huge party school. By the time Wed or Thursday rolls around, everyones question to everyone else is all about "Hey you goin' out tonight?!" Response"YEA I'm gonna hit the bars earlier than normal" "COOL" "YEA" </p>

<p>I'm not even gonna pretend to understand this mentality, but while everyone is out getting drunk off their arses with people they don't know/won't remember the next day, I would much rather do something productive with myself. I'm into video editing, visual effects, and more recently 3d animation. It took me two weeks to finish my last "project", during which I learned TONS about this art, all the while I did it during my free time. I can only imagine how many blackouts occurred during the period i spent working (i actually can't call it working, cus i usually have fun doing it). It just doesn't make sense to me. I mean, i'll hang out with my friends and stuff and go to the movies, just not to the bars. </p>

<p>Anyone else like this?</p>

<p>PS.. I'm actually going to a party tonight, but it's with people I have worked on shoots with, and a few of us are "pre gaming" at a friends by watching Ferris Bueler. I'm looking forward to this because I mostly know these people and I know they like me. I have a bottle of rum for the occasion, but this will be the first time this year i have really "partied".</p>

<p>See, I understand you perfectly. What kind of waste of space are you that it’s “fun” for you to get completely sloshed and act like an idiot? People do it because it makes others like them, maybe? Or because they’re boring people when they aren’t wasted?</p>

<p>Then, because the superficial “partying” culture is sooooooo accepting of those who choose not to partake, I get called a variety of such things, like “d*****” among others, because I express how annoyed I am by it.</p>

<p>Why does it matter what other people do with their time in college? More importantly, why is it so important for you to hypocritically express this “holier than thou” complex on an online forum?</p>

<p>Pathetic. :rolleyes:</p>

<p>I don’t have a problem with people who don’t like to party until they start criticizing me for doing what I like. I like to hit the bars a couple times at the end of the week because it is fun to go out and meet people.</p>

<p>Just a note: I would reply in the same fashion to somebody who parties a lot and criticizes those who do not. </p>

<p>The whole “in your face” business about what other people are doing is, at the core, what really perturbs me.</p>

<p>That’s the issue I have with party schools. I would rather live in a more academic environment than a party one. I don’t feel like you’re being condescending at all, btw.</p>

<p>I’m not putting down people who choose to do it, I’m just saying i don’t understand it. If you want to go party, knock yourself out.</p>

<p>When it does get on my nerves, is when a friend is supposed to meet you and others at a hockey game, but he doesn’t show up. His excuse being “sorry dude, I needed a nap cus I have to go party tonight”</p>

<p>I hate the party scene too, but I’m not an elitist snob about it.</p>

<p>partying is productive</p>

<p>Let’s look a bit deeper into the issue. Are these party animals capable of balancing time? Doing schoolwork? Learning skills? Showing maturity? Reasoning and following directions? There’s nothing wrong with a rocking party if you deserve it.</p>

<p>Of course, there’s nothing wrong with being productive, either. Honestly, I’d rather be programming than partying in your situation, unless I just finished a game or something.</p>

<p>“I hate the party scene too, but I’m not an elitist snob about it.”</p>

<p>How am I being a snob?</p>

<p>Partying can be fun. It doesn’t necessarily mean going to a huge rager and getting wasted on a frat porch right after. What about house parties with a few friends? Those are usually pretty fun. Besides, I know a few kids who define a party as anything with food, music, and drinks.</p>

<p>It gets lonely being ‘productive’ after a while.</p>

<p>To each his own. Dont know anyone would give a rats azz what someone else does??</p>

<p>My daughter is like you. She works hard, plans ahead, spends hours in the study lounge while her suitemates are drinking and having a great time in the livingroom. To each his own, right?
Except that after the suitemates blow off the whole weekend, they will stay up all night on say, Monday night, and try to get done everything they should have gotten done over the weekend. So they drink their caffeine, and swallow their adderall, and stay up all night and be loud, so my daughter, who is up to date on her work and would like to get some sleep, can’t.</p>

<p>I am the same. I try not to sound arrogant or snobbish about it. I simply don’t like to drink or party. I prefer just chilling with friends, not in a party or alcohol/drugs setting. Unfortunately, we live in a culture that looks down on those who do not do such things. I’ve been on opposite ends of the spectrum on how people think of me. Some people find me odd and even resort to calling me names while others are 100% fine with it.</p>

<p>Eh, I can understand. I’m not a giant fan of big parties, I prefer being with a few friends just getting drunk and watching bad movies if the aim of the night is to just have fun and be a little wild.</p>

<p>I’d love to go on adventures every weekend but alas that doesn’t seem to come to fruition.</p>

<p>I agree with GreyGravity. It’s not that we feel superior about not partying ad working but rather why do we have to be treated as the inferior for wanting to have fun without overdosing on alcohol and drugs? It gets lonely being the ‘productive’ one mainly because most of the other students are out partying. There’s nothing wrong with complaining as to why there aren’t more like-minded people around. </p>

<p>Productive people play too, but our concept of fun is just different, you can wonder but you can’t judge. Just like we wonder why party animals party they probably wonder why we are so boring. I guess the deal is I don’t tell them to ‘be more productive’; it’s their life but we get talked down for not partying. Why give a damn about us if we are so boring? -</p>

<p>Okay… well i mentioned that I was actually going to a party tonight (for the first time in a while). First, some friends and I “pre gamed” at her dorm by watching Ferris Bueler. Unfortunately, i forgot how long it had been since I drank and how low my tolerance was, so before long it wasn’t pretty, and I was feeling pretty bad. I don’t like feeling sick and disoriented, so I stopped drinking. We made it over to the actual party, which turned out to be more like a get-together of people involved with the movie we are making, so it was actually really fun. Most people were drinking, a couple chose not too. I realized that I probably would have had a BETTER time if I had not drank as much previously. Maybe just enough to be a little tipsy but not disoriented. </p>

<p>Anyway, I got myself worked up for nothing, the party was really chill and it was easy to talk to pretty much everyone. I had fun, but would of had more fun if wasn’t drunk</p>

<p>“Anyone else like this?”
Yes. If you find them, you will have friends and fun.
However, note that if you go to parties and drink water instead of alcohol, you will also have friends and fun.</p>

<p>Contrary to popular belief, a party where alcohol exists doesn’t automatically mean everyone there abandons all self-control, and it certainly doesn’t mean you have to. There is a middle ground between getting blackout drunk every night and completely abstaining. Alcohol is a social drug - in moderation, it helps you to have a good time. On the other hand, I personally (as a HS senior) want to experience all the social opportunities in college. This includes parties and booze but also everything else that whatever school I go to offers in terms of concerts, movies, famous speakers, or other events - or just hanging out with some friends and some weed. And I think that if you avoid any one spectrum you’re missing the whole college experience.</p>