<p>I never have a problem with people who don’t party. I just get annoyed when people are judgmental towards those who do…and that’s several of the replies on this thread. No one is better than anyone else. Live and let live. I get that the party scene looks stupid to people who aren’t in it. Hell, I see everyone going out to party and roll my eyes sometimes. But just because something seems stupid to you doesn’t mean those people are a waste of space or anything like that. They’re people, same as you, and they deserve just as much respect. </p>
<p>I don’t even party much anymore for the record, I mostly just hang out with a couple friends and drink or smoke or whatever. People get bored of doing the freshman party thing eventually. I definitely did, and when I was a freshman I thought I never would.</p>
<p>If I have a lot of work to do or have an upcoming exam (or three), I stay in, work, and make sure I get a decent amount of sleep. When i don’t have anything pressing to do I decide between going out or staying in to hang out with friends. I don’t have any problems with drinking, but I can’t afford to do it every weekend, money- and grade-wise.</p>
<p>I’m 21 and avoid parties unless I know a lot of people there. I don’t care if people party since everyone has different interests, it just so happens that parties don’t typically interest me. It’s mostly my dislike of crowded areas combined with social awkwardness. Also, I kind of just like studying alone.</p>
<p>Parties are fun in moderations (like once or twice a month). I don’t understand those people who can party starting from Thursday evening to Saturday night. They must have some crazy metabolism. One party and I’m all good for a long, long time.</p>
<p>As a parent of a college student, I have to agree with the poster. My daughter specifically selected her college because it did NOT have a party reputation. She has found like-minded students who can have fun without drinking or taking drugs. She is a serious student and doesn’t mind staying in to work on homework or a project.</p>
<p>Looking back on when I went to a party-school in the 70’s (the legal drinking age was 18 at that time), I now realize how crazy and dangerous our binge drinking was. At the time, it seemed like a fun thing to do. But there were the blackouts, assaults, unprotected sex, etc. Just look at George Huguely and Yeardley Love. There is a lesson to be learned from that.</p>
<p>I agree. While other students are out relaxing and slightly reducing their skills, I am out training, becoming stronger…and stronger…building up money, social capital, connections, and influence in downtown where there is work available 24 hours. </p>
<p>I mock the logical fallacies of “not having a life” if you don’t party. For instance: </p>
<p>I once invited someone to an academic club I’m in, we meet at 9:30pm Thursday nights, she said that she “actually has a life” so she won’t be able to make any meetings. </p>
<p>Then a few weeks later, she invited me to a party taking place at 11:30pm Thursday night. I told her “I actually have a life” and would be working hard that night making money and building social influence.</p>
<p>I don’t like the implication that those who party AREN’T productive… I’m extremely productive and I throw down with my sisters… I agree you give off a holier-than-thou vibe.</p>
<p>You only live once, why not have a great time? It’s really not hard to go out 3 or 4 nights a week and still do well in school. I’m not gifted in art or graphic designing or whatever the OP said he likes to do in his free time, and I know I can learn all the material necessary for my classes if I manage my time well. Totally agree with being sick of the holier-than-thou attitude, and I can guarantee that I am building social skills that will be far ahead of many others when I hit the workforce by going out and interacting with people. I’ll just end with a quote from Asher Roth, “Time isn’t wasted when you’re getting wasted.”</p>
<p>If you don’t respect the habits of someone, then don’t worry about their opinion either. People will always think other’s activities are inferior to their own. Why else would you do the things you do if they weren’t the best use of your time?</p>
<p>I do like to go out to parties and I think it is completely fine to party as long as it is in moderation. I don’t drink or smoke, never touched any substance in my life, however I don’t completely shun anyone else who chooses not to do the same. I go out and I drink water or soda, and I have gotten both sides before, people who do criticize me for being substance free and people who respect me for it. However after a while I stopped telling people I’m substance free and when I go out I just tell them I can’t drink tonight, I have work in the morning or some excuse. That way I don’t kill their fun ■■■■■.</p>
<p>I also believe going out helps a lot especially when it comes to social skills. I have friends who do nothing but stay in their rooms and study. Yeah sure they have the book smarts but they completely lack in the social skills department, which will definitely hurt them when it comes to looking for a job etc. You have to be smart AND you have to know how to talk if you want to be marketable. That’s the main reason why I go out occasionally. I try to do my best to break out of my shy shell and I try to learn how to talk to people. It’s great practice.</p>
<p>There’s nothing wrong with drinking and partying as long as you do it in moderation. Not everybody that goes to parties wants to get wasted to the point where they black out and are rolling around on the front porch in their own throw up. That’s not fun.</p>
<p>But there is nothing wrong with having a few drinks and a few laughs during the weekend.</p>
<p>Sounds like someone is a little bitter about not getting into parties…</p>
<p>I’m exactly like you. I don’t drink and I don’t really like to party, either. Since moving in back in August, I’ve gone to exactly one party (during MLK weekend). It was okay, since I had a few friends there and we talked and all, but otherwise, it was just way too many people in a small room, drinking and playing beer pong and dancing and hooking up and all that jazz. I don’t have a problem with people who party, but it’s just not my thing. Now, I don’t necessarily do a lot of productive things while others party (procrastination lol) but my idea of a fun time is usually eating out, going to the movies, going to the arena to watch a game, or just hanging out and playing some video games and stuff.</p>
<p>I’m not saying that I’m “holier than thou”. If you want to party, fine. I have a ton of friends who party all the time, and I don’t care until it affects their relationship with me or our other friends. I’m shy by nature but when i get into the right mood i have no issue’s talking to people. I’m certainly not socially inept. </p>
<p>“Sounds like someone is a little bitter about not getting into parties…” I was actually invited to another while I was at the first party, but I was having family down the next day so I had to declined. </p>
<p>I’m not sure where people are getting the impression that i’m bitter/think I’m better than everyone. I’m actually one of the most nonjudgmental people that my friends know. I was just stating that I don’t understand the mentality of HAVING to go out every night and get drunk. I overheard a conversation last night about going out and getting wasted that night, and it was only Tuesday night. I would never think once about doing that, but then again I was away from my dorm for 12 hours and was fairly tired.</p>
<p>^It’s not that we feel like we have to go out and get drunk, it’s that we want to go out and talk to people, have a few drinks, and relax a little. And Tuesday’s aren’t that weird, if you finish all your work and have nothing else to do, why not go out? You can still be fine for class in the morning. And you are inherently contradicting yourself when you say you’re one of the more nonjudgmental people out there and then judge someone for going out on a Tuesday night.</p>
<p>And maybe it’s different elsewhere but at my school it seems the main goal of going out is to get wasted. People like to talk about how hammered they were the other night and do so proudly. I’m always game to have a few drinks with friends and to relax, but normally the goal is to play Sherlock the next day and try to piece together what you did last night.</p>